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    Im so over my sister. She has had anorexia for the last 10-12 years and Im just over it! She is on disability, lives with our parents and has my mum wrapped around her little finger.
    I cut her out of my life when she told me i would be a bad mother when I was pregnant but now I have a baby she has decided I need to get over it because she wants to be in my life. She has ruined so many things in my life and said so many hurtful things (I moved interstate at 17 to get away from it all). My dad tells her she is his favourite and my mum always takes her side. I just cant take it anymore! Im sick of making excuses for her because of her illness that she wont except help for. and Im sick of being treated like the bad guy.
    I have enough on my plate and feel sad that I cant even visit my mother because she is there.
    Anyway end of rant

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    Default sister from hell

    Can u ask... Are you angrier at your sister .. Or your parents for ignoring you?

    If it creates too much stress, keep a distance and enjoy your own little family.

    Good luck...

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    I think Im more hurt by my mum because I know who will always come first. Im not close with my dad so its more just annoying that of all of us he likes the horrible one the most. Im angry at my sister because I feel like she will never stop until she has completely ruined every important moment in my life and has our mum all to herself.
    I try to stay out of it but she is always trying to call me and if mum is visiting we cant enjoy ourselves because she is calling her constantly using the anorexia to make her feel guilty.
    The whole thing is so messed up. Cant wait for her to ruin my sons first Christmas........

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    Yep I agree. She does sound like the sister from hell. I wonder if your parents on some level think she may also be the daughter from hell? I wonder if its easier for your dad to say she's the favourite to keep her happy and for your mum to take her side to keep the peace? What would happen if they didn't treat her like this? Would her anorexia worsen which would mean they would worry more? What they know of you is that you are resilient (you left home at 17, moved interstate, have not had anorexia, are not receiving disability payment, have had a successful pregnancy and now a baby).

    I take my hat off to you. It's very difficult to have a sibling who demands more than their fair share of their parents. It's not fair and highly likely your child/ren will also be disadvantaged by your sister and her illness. Big hugs

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    i suffered anorexia for over 15 years - it is so hard to not let it become your life and define you.
    hate to say this but your parents are also just enabling her. sounds very co-dependant to me - i would guess that they blame themselves in some way (which may not be true) or are very, very scared of losing her (anorexia has the highest mortality rate of any mental illness) but she needs to move out, get therapy or go to an ed clinic.
    and just because she suffers from mental illness it doesn't mean she gets to act like a bi@tch. she probably is extremely jealous of you - you have a life, a family, independance and probably a lot more happiness in one day than she feels in a month.

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    halloweendee you hit the nail on the head! Its nice to hear someone who has gone through it say that.
    My mum totally enables her and is in denial about it. She has been in hospitals several times for months and knows all the tricks to get out. In the end they always let her out. 2 years ago she got to 28kg and mum drove her from NT to Adelaidewhere I was going to pick her up and take her to Melb to front up to a good hospital that only takes local patients (we were going to use my address, dodgy I know). She only got as far as Adelaide and had several strokes and all she learnt is that she went that little bit too far.
    Its frustrating because she knows just what to say to make mum feel guilty. Its hard because she is nearly 30 and to be honest hospitals dont really want to know her and I think mum just doesn't have it in her to go through that again.


 

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