You are freakin awesome! Why I couldn't have explained it as well as you can from the beginning I'll never know!
It IS exactly what I'm saying...abuse is abuse but there IS a grey area to consider that no one seems to be open to consider. I used my children as an example...then people run with that for all it's worth instead of discussing what I really wanted to discusss which is this undue force thing.
I get the impression that a woman who is in hospital nursing a broken jaw is just as wrong as the guy sitting around laughing and chatting with his friends saying 'Oh she hit me first'. Quite frankly this type of mentality where it is believed she deserved it because she hit first...is quite scary. And to know that the law views it the same way, kinda makes me feel a bit better about my own feelings on the subject.