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    rude. especially for a kids birthday party.

    1) you either want a gift or not - if not, then say don't bring gifts. don't ask for cash instead.

    2) they are only kids for such a short amount of time! why not let them enjoy those few years of birthdays, surrounded by presents, ripping open wrapping paper? if you really have a problem with clutter then periodically cull the toybox and give them to charity.

    3) a gift is about the intent, not the actual product. i personally would prefer a home-made gift that someone put time and thought into compared to money.

    4) i'd rather teach my kids that money is not the be all and end all to life. that money is incidental, not directly related to enjoyment, fun, celebration (which is what birthdays, weddings etc. are meant to be about) as opposed to what a person gives you and how much.

    just old school

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    I wouldn't be offended, sounds sensible to me. My kids would hate the idea though. They love to go shopping and pick out a gift for parties.

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    I wouldn't find it rude personally but if it were an invitation for my child I wouldn't specify anything about gifts and just let the people coming decide what they are going to do, I think it's the thought that counts.

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    I don't like requests for money instead of gifts on invitations.

    If I were you I would probably ask for no gifts on the invitation (in a polite way), and then if CLOSE family/ friends queried it/ insisted that they wanted to buy something then I would explain the situation and leave it to them if they wanted to offer to contribute to anything.

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    Wow, from reading the responses it seems pretty evenly divided. I am looking at doing something similar for DD's 3rd b'day. She has a bunch of toys, yes I give them away regularly to other people, op shops etc, and doesn't really need any more. She is absolutely in love with dancing and all she wants for her b'day is dancing lessons. I am going to write on the invites that any contribution towards that would be wonderful. It is only a small party, close friends only and everyone knows we have no money. I doubt that anyone will be offended as I have told everyone that that is what we are doing. The party is having a face painter so all the kids, (and some adults) will have a ball with that, and it is in a park, so there will be lots of fun to be had. DD is a bit young to realise that b'days brings pressies, she is more interested in the cakes!

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    I would actually be relieved to be able to chuck a few $$ in a card and not go through the rigmarole of choosing a gift for a kid I don't know (do they own it already/will they like it/will someone else buy it etc).

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    Default Birthday party invitations - do you think its rude re: gifts?

    Quote Originally Posted by BornToBe View Post
    I would actually be relieved to be able to chuck a few $$ in a card and not go through the rigmarole of choosing a gift for a kid I don't know (do they own it already/will they like it/will someone else buy it etc).
    I agree - I always ask what the child wants/needs as I'd much prefer to give what they want - what I think is nice/what my DS likes is not always the same as other peoples tastes!


 

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