Last edited by Sonja; 24-10-2012 at 19:13.
Frankly, I'd be FAR more offended knowing that someone had just thrown out a gift or regifted something that I'd taken time, energy and thought into purchasing for their child because they either didn't want or didn't need the item.
If someone asked for money (in a nice way) rather than gifts I'd appreciate if they said what the money was going towards such as swimming lessons, dancing lessons, football club membership or anything similar.
If they didn't do that then I'd be reluctant to give cash and would probably give a present anyway. But if the parent said on the invitation "Please no presents, but should you REALLY want to give something a contribution to his/her swimming lessons would be very appreciated and is a gift that will continue to give for the rest of DS/DD's life!".
I think a lot of people think that asking for money is gauche, but honestly for me the joy in giving a present is knowing that the person appreciates and can use a gift and is grateful when they remember being given it. If my gift is helping a child to learn a valuable skill or enjoy a hobby then I see that as far better than a toy that might be thrown away in a few months time .
I don't like it at all! Sorry! I think if a child has too much can't some older toys go to charity.
Yep, I would consider it rude, only because you're asking for money rather than asking for no gifts at all.
I hate wishing well poems for the same reason. I don't mind the "please don't worry about presents, we already have enough" but I hate the "ones that mention the words CASH or MONEY" - I think they're awful. People will always give you something and not everyone is in a position to give cash.
If you write "please no gifts, we have enough" people will get the idea and will probably give money or vouchers.. personally I wouldn't go to a 3 year old's birthday if it was asking for money... that's just me though.
Infact the more I think about it the more I don't like the idea, especially for a young child's birthday.
Personally my mum/XIL's always ask what my kids want and if they want money to choose something themselves. Lately they have been getting money which grandies think is great because then the kids tell them so happily what they bought with the money. But for all other friends and family, I think they should be able to have fun in choosing a gift for the child.
If you really don't want loads of toys etc, I like PP's idea of donating towards a child related charity.
I certainly wouldn't be offended by an invitation that included a request for money, but I would consider it a little impolite.
I appreciate that you don't want to own a mountain of toys and because of that, I would simply write, 'no gifts please' on the invite and hope that people respect your request.
To receive a gift is a privilege. I think we are losing sight of this in accepting that the request for money is appropriate.
I don't think it's rude at all.
I'm with the suggestion of "please no presents your presence is all we ask" if you don't want anything cluttering. And you might find people bring cards with cash.
Though I'm also of the though it's not about what *you* want. It's fun for kids giving gifts and receiving at parties. Maybe suggest more "disposable" toys so you don't add to your mountain of clutter (I know your pain lol) so put on the invite "please come, no need to bring a gift, but if you really want to bring something *child* would love something crafty, like colouring books, stickers, play dough etc"
Id maybe not be offended if I got an invite indicating a preference for cash but I'd not do it myself and I'd not give any cash.
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While I get your reasoning, I just think nothing about gifts should ever be put on invites in general, especially kids party invites. You're being invited to a party, not a gift giving event, if that makes sense...?
I always have hated invites that mention gifts and money... It seems déclassé to me.
Also, kids like to open gifts, no matter what it is.
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