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    Default Sad panda - Week 1, Day 1 - Blog 4

    I want to write more about where I'm at. I think it really struck home for me last night when I was talking to a friend after playing a video game with him and I thanked him for "making me forget that I'm sad" because really, that's the crux of the matter. I am sad.

    I'll go out in public and I'll smile and I'll laugh, I might even enjoy myself for a little while. Then something will happen and I remember that I'm sad, I just forgot that fact.

    I know what you're thinking and you won't be the first person to tell me that I should seek some kind of counseling. Especially when I follow up with this. I feel like I don't have anyone to talk to. I have friends that are reading this and my darlings this is nothing against you at all. It's just how I feel. Whenever I try to talk about it, I get told I need counseling. I certainly can't talk to my husband, I don't think the miscarriage affected him as badly as it affected me so when I try to talk about it to him he takes a very pragmatic "feeling crap about it doesn't change the fact that it happened" approach and it kind of makes me feel worse.

    So I bottle it up inside. I cry in private. I smile in public. I am sad panda.

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    I have been where you are, you will get through this. It takes time to grieve.
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    Exactly. You can't put a time line on grief. The good thing about exercise is that it releases endorphins, so you will feel better- naturally.


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    Default Blog 4 - Week 1, Day 1 - Sad panda

    Thanks guys, I think a big part of my problem is that we haven't gotten pregnant again so I have nothing to focus on other than where I "should" be.

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    You know I am no good with words. Proud of you for taking this challenge on and giving yourself something positive to focus on. From the bottom of my heart I hope you can do as your sig says and learn to love yourself again.

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    Awwwww London, that brought tears to my eyes. Thank you, I really appreciate your support and I hope I can too.
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