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    Default You're sick again??? Little vent!

    So I'm 34 weeks pregnant. And yes like most women I'm really over it and getting impatient. But that's not what's bothering me!!!
    Here's my vent.... This has been a tough pregnancy.
    -felt nauseas 24/7 for the first 16-18 weeks
    -had the runs
    -have had such bad back pain early on I couldn't walk and needed physio. Doctors initially thought I had uti or infection so freaked me out.
    -anaemic. So bad I passed out and got taken to hospital
    -needed holter monitoring because my heart was being weird. Worrying!
    -very low blood pressure. Like dizzy and fainting.
    -and I'm on my fourth nasty cold since getting pregnant. This one is so bad I've pulled all my stomach muscles from coughing.
    I'm glad it hasn't been worse with vomiting all the way through etc though.
    And I've been working but having 1 day off per fortnight (ish) because I've struggled so badly.
    And to top it off at my 20 week scan a very serious heart defect was found in our baby that has massive implications for the future and obviously has affected my pregnancy etc. also life stresses with my husband hospitalized three time for pneumonia and then got made redundant. So it's been hard and I've still managed to work. All in the last 20 ish weeks.
    So yesterday I turn up to work (I'm a teacher) and a friend (who was one my closest friends on staff) says 'you're sick again??' Rolls eyes because she sees me blowing my nose/coughing etc. like somehow its my fault?!? She is also pregnant. I say yeah, I'm so over it and she basically responds in a patronizing way oh big pity party then???
    Funnily enough, I haven't had a big pity party though if anyone deserved one I think I'd make the list. I go to work... Laugh, make jokes, do my job well and rarely talk about our problems with the baby. Even though some days I'd like to crawl into bed and cry!!!
    She even had people make her meals early in pregnancy because she hates cooking and wasn't even sick. Just breezing through pregnancy. Which is wonderful for her. I should mention she's not the only person who has said this. Like somehow I deliberately went and wiped cough/cold germs all over me so I would get sick.
    But...
    I'm sick of it!! Which is good because I only have four days left of work.
    I wish people who breeze through pregnancy wouldn't judge those who don't. For some of us it's really hard.
    No question here... Just wanted a safe place to vent my frustrations.
    (I'm thankful for the really supportive people though I work with).
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    Hi

    Sorry that you have had a challenging pregnancy. Even one of the issues would be stressful in itself. People like to to think of pregnancy as the whole fairytale scenario others just don't give a sh$$ if it's not their pregnancy(even if they are pregnant themselves)
    I'm injured at the minute and I have seen both the best and worst of people lately. Try not to be too discouraged- there are some "good eggs" out there even if it doesn't feel like that.

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    Default You're sick again??? Little vent!

    Hi Tamam lots of hugs to you! You sound like you've had a horrendous time. You absolutely deserve a pity party but I think it's amazing that you haven't and with that strength I think your good to an awesome mum!

    Can't even try to rationalise your friends comments...she just sounds like a bish!

    Hope your feeling better soon and that your bub is ok. Just think your mat leave is just around the corner

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    Default You're sick again??? Little vent!

    Hi Tamtam, ur friend should be offering to help you out, not making you feel bad because you're sick!!
    You've had a very tough road through your pregnancy, and from what I've seen in our dec threads, you have handled it all beautifully. Even when you're entitled to more than a few hissy fits! Not long now until you will meet your gorgeous girl. Xxx

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    Default You're sick again??? Little vent!

    Awwww thanks ladies for your positive vibes!!!
    I will admit to being somewhat whingy at time with pregnancy but seriously... My tolerance for 'friends' lacking compassion is pretty low at the moment!!!
    I even asked last week if someone wouldn't mind covering a playground duty for me... My feet were very swollen and painful. I would return favour with chocolates/coffee etc. I got 1 reply out of 20+ staff. Very sad. Bearing in mind I often do favors for others where I've taught their classes etc and done duties for them.
    Wow... You really learn who your friends are in hard times!!!! Seems its easier to buy a pressie (which I love and am grateful for) than for people to follow through on 'if there's anything I can do to help just ask' offers!!
    Okay. I need to stop whinging now!!!!

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    Im sorry you so sick! during pregnancy your immune system drops. i wouldnt worry about your friend, maybe she was having a bad day being pregnant to her hormones are everywhere, maybe just tell her she made you feel like its your fault your sick again, when it isnt, its never anyones fault for being sick. just try and rest and take it easy and ignore what the rude people say

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    Default You're sick again??? Little vent!

    Ummm isn't that what friends are for? Be there for each other to whinge to??
    Don't listen to anyone. Considering all you've had to deal with and go through you are doing so well. 4 more days and you can just enjoy the couch and tv and actually try an enjoy a few weeks of your pregnancy xx

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    Default Re: You're sick again??? Little vent!

    Oh my gosh! I seriously feel for you!!! I cannot stand this type of behaviour especially from friends and family!

    I don't really complain that much but even I cop it, especially from the mil who seems to think that morning sickness is a weakness and apparently warrants an eye roll!!! But then again she felt it perfectly acceptable to bring her children who have gastro over today and was quite offended when hubby expressed he thought they should probably keep their distance..

    At the end of the day I think people forget that your bump didn't just appear, all your normal goodness has gone into creating that bump and your body is working overtime so we can forgive it for being too tired too fight those nasties off every time!!!

    Hang in there, I'm sure your friend wasn't the picture of health every single day of her pregnancy x.

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    Default Re: You're sick again??? Little vent!

    That woman sounds like a complete *****!

    Karma might get her yet- she still has to go through labour!

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    Default You're sick again??? Little vent!

    Ahhh so true!! People so often forget that not everyone breezes through pregnancy!!! I hate that eye roll etc when you are suffering bad with morning sickness and they just think you're weak. Makes me mad.

    Um who brings their kids out when they've got gastro?? Seriously!!??? If you're sick you should be at home resting. That's totally not okay. I wouldn't have let them in the house.


 

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