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    I knew a male student who would not tell his gf when he had holidays from uni so he could hang out with his mates

    Yep I would be p*ssed if my partner did that to me. I say time in lieu for you is on the cards.

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    Default DH not telling me he had a sick day.

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    Don't think it would bother me. If he was wanting to be sneaky I don't see why he would come home knowing you would be there. Being secretive would be not telling you he had a sickie at all.
    I tend to agree

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    I don't think he was being sneaky or secretive, if he was he'd just cone home at normal time and pretend he'd been at work.

    Im guessing he didn't tell you for 2 reasons. One being that it could start a fight, you'd say you dont get sick days and when's your turn to have a day off etc. The other being that he knew you'd ask him to watch the kids, which he didn't want to do on his day off. This would then lead back to reason number one.

    Whether any of this is fair or not depends on your relationship really.

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    Quote Originally Posted by ~Temet Nosce~ View Post
    Don't think it would bother me. If he was wanting to be sneaky I don't see why he would come home knowing you would be there. Being secretive would be not telling you he had a sickie at all.
    This. DH and I rarely speak during the working day (both too busy) and I wouldn't expect him to tell me but he probably would. Just wouldn't be miffed if he didn't I guess

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    Default DH not telling me he had a sick day.

    Quote Originally Posted by ~Temet Nosce~ View Post
    Don't think it would bother me. If he was wanting to be sneaky I don't see why he would come home knowing you would be there. Being secretive would be not telling you he had a sickie at all.
    This.

    It would bother me if he came home and pretended he had been to work, but this probably wouldn't bother me.

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    Default Re: DH not telling me he had a sick day.

    Yeah what WineTime said. DP takes mental health days occasionally and makes sure he takes them on a day DS is in CC. Anyone who spends time hone with kids knows it's not terribly relaxing watching the kids all morning. Much nicer to go to the shops on your own.
    It wouldn't bother me, but DP always makes sure I get some time off, too so i guess I wouldn't think he was doing it on purpose to get out of watching the kids, I'd just assume he wouldn't have thought to tell me.

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    i dont think i would be fussed tbh. im a bit anal about him telling me things, where he is, what he is doing etc but i dont think this would bother me or I would argue with him about???

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    Default DH not telling me he had a sick day.

    I would be annoyed, but my husband doesn't take sick days when he's sick. I don't really take sickies either.

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    I'd be annoyed as DH and I talk multiple times a day. I'd be annoyed that he didn't want to spend the day with DD and I. However, DD is only 5 months so a bit of a novelty still I can't speculate as to how he may feel in 10 years with a few kids!

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    Default DH not telling me he had a sick day.

    I think I'd be more annoyed if he'd kept it a secret. Though if my DH went and wandered around shops etc on a mental health day (sickie!) I'd probably like text from him saying something like 'hey honey... Taking the day off work, not sick just need to de stress. Ill be home around lunch' or something to that effect. That would be my cue to know he needs some space and let him be.
    But I would hate it if he told me nothing at all.


 

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