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    Where will you be having your bub OP? If you are going through a community midwifery program, or having an independent midwife you may be able to build a relationship with the middy that will be with you so that you can relax in the knowledge that they know how you are feeling and will work with you.

    Birth skills bu Juju Sundin is a really good book.

    Some birth videos are better than others. The birth that I can think of off the top of my head is Lydia in One Born Every Minute (UK) - hers is amazing and, to me, I want one just like it.

    Don't let people tell you their horror stories. Women love doing this but if they start, just cut them off and say "I'm sorry, but I know all the negatives, I need to hear positives now".

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    I found educating myself so I knew about what could happen in all different scenarios gave me an inner peace so I was comfortable and felt in control.

    Get onto some great blogs like Birth without fear to educate yourself. Take from then what you want to but it will make you aware of your options and the ability to make a choice.

    If you are able to make choices are be aware you will feel like the birth is yours and you can work with the doctor/midwife to ensure you are happy and safe, along with bub of course.

    A couple of things stuck with me that people said when I had my first, birth has been the same for centuries now there is just the hype and google!

    And it's just one day (or 2) in your life and in the whole perspective of your life and your child's that's not much time even if it is a rough time.

    There are counsellors that can help so don't be afraid to get help.

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    Hi, just wanted to let you know I was absolutely petrified when I fell pregnant with my first. I had anxiety attacks and went to see someone to talk about the birth from 13 weeks! I seriously thought I was going to go crazy when the baby was coming and they would have to tie me down to the bed and restrain me. It was awful. But you know what? As the time came nearer you get this sense of acceptance and it almost becomes welcoming. Sure it's nervewracking because the unknown usually is but I was surprisingly really calm through the birth and hardly made any noise just breathing through each contraction and when it was time to push out he came! All with no drugs! The midwife said she was shocked at how together and calm I was throughout! Just goes to show it was all in my head! I'm pregnant again now and yes I am nervous but we are made to do this so trust yourself an your body and if you feel like you need some pain relief then take it! All the best on your journey and enjoy being pregnant cause it's wonderful xxxx

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    Yep me! I've put off pregnancy for 5 years due to my fear. But since being pregnant I've become very calm about it.. but still cannot bear to read birth stories to watch anything about birth. Might even skip the classes

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    I am 28 wks and this is alllll I can think of!!! I'm terrified!! I haven't even experienced period pain so have no idea what to expect of labour!! I have had an amazing pregnancy so kind of feel like I will have a **** birth. Im scared of tearing, causing permemant vaginal damage/bladder damage, having a longggg horrible labour then ending up with a cs. I am seriously considering an elective but that scares me too lol!!! Sorry I'm probably making your fears worse!! I just bought Jujus birth skills as it was highly recommended. Hopefully it eases my mind. Maybe u could try it too? Good luck xx

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    I just kept thinking people do this everyday and really you body will amaze you, I'm the biggest sook when it comes to pain and I labored 16 hrs no drugs (well just gas but it didn't do much) i could not believe I had done it! Read some of the positive birth stories on here and please try to remain positive and not dwell on the scary thoughts!

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    I too was absolutely petrified of labour and giving birth - so much so that I started hyperventilating when watching a natural birth video (and it was supposedly a 'good' natural birth too...) Needless to say, didn't watch anymore of them whilst pregnant.

    I felt a lot more confident after taking the antenatal classes too like others have said. For me just being taken into the birthing suite, becoming familiar with the rooms and having the midwife explain in a lot of detail what all the scary looking devices and instruments do put me a little bit more at ease. Also, one thing that really helped me during my son's birth was to focus on him - not me. His heart rate was monitored throughout and I found that a good distraction in a way - just knowing that he was okay and on his way to meeting us very soon!


 

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