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    And I don't mean directed pushing. My body was pushing and I was clenching. Haha.

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    I think it is more being scared of the unknown more than scared of labour itself.

    Inform yourself. Don't watch videos if you think they will freak you out. But start reading. Read the birth stories on here. Research calm/hypno birthing and see if they are for you.

    Birth Skills by Juju Sundin is a great book about tips/techniques for labour/delivery.

    I've also heard great things about the books by Ina May.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Boobycino View Post
    Lol I refused to push and kept saying I wanna go home. Lol.

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    I was pushing 'wrong'. The midwife said 'ahhh how are you pushing?' and I said 'umm..kinda with my tummy?' and she goes 'yeah...try doing a poo' I was like WTF NO! Hahha was not aware that was how it was done.

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    I was never afraid of birth, not at all. The big part that scared me, (and still does with my 2nd due soon!) - is the 18+ years of raising a kid. ARGH.

    I just kept reminding myself - I can handle this. Birth takes 1 day. I can handle 1 day. Even if it's the worst pain of my life - it's just ONE day (or actually a short 5 hours, as it happened).

    Definitely invest in some calm birth workshop or similar. Your fears are real, and you need to find an outlet and a calm way to manage them, before you get to that point.

    Before you know it, you'll be over your 1 day of labour, and you'll have an intense few years of raising a baby, feeding, settling, sleeping, non-sleeping, childcare, school, bumps & accidents, whinging, toilet-training, and blah blah blah. THAT's what scared me, and still does.

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    not in the slightest worried about any of that sunnyskies! lol
    I am bad with pain and yes keep telling myself thousands of people all over the world do this everyday its one of the most natural things... i will invest in some books and have been browsing youtube for waterbirths as this is something im interested in thanks for the tips ladies. I can do this... i have no choice.. lol

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    When the time comes your body just takes over and you cope.

    Honestly its not as horrifying as i thought it would be. Many women even go back for round two lol!

    Definitely read up on and study childbirth. It will help know what to expect and to prepare. And enjoy the ride! Pregnancy and childbirth really is such an amazing experience

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    Quote Originally Posted by JessicaBailey View Post
    not in the slightest worried about any of that sunnyskies! lol
    I am bad with pain and yes keep telling myself thousands of people all over the world do this everyday its one of the most natural things... i will invest in some books and have been browsing youtube for waterbirths as this is something im interested in thanks for the tips ladies. I can do this... i have no choice.. lol
    Look into your choices of pain relief too if you have a low pain threshold. That might help ease your worry too.

    Wishing u a happy and healthy pregnancy and birth xx

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    I was scared of birth and pain and of the possibilities of things going wrong. For me antenatal classes helped. The other thing was when my sister told me to not focus on negatives it doesn't help and to just think that everything will be fine. Sounds obvious but was something i really needed to hear at the time. All the best, it will all work out fine.

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    Quote Originally Posted by London View Post

    I was pushing 'wrong'. The midwife said 'ahhh how are you pushing?' and I said 'umm..kinda with my tummy?' and she goes 'yeah...try doing a poo' I was like WTF NO! Hahha was not aware that was how it was done.
    Haha yeah actually when I told a friend I'd had katelyn she said "did you have her naturally?" "Yep!" "How weird is it feeling like your pooping?!?!"

    Omg why did nobody tell me it feels exactly like pushing out a poop. I'd been told sometimes people do poop. But not that pushing feels like pushing poop. I kept crying and begging the mw to tell me if I was pooping. And apologising to Df if I pooped.

    I just was soooooooooooo afraid I'd poop. I decided the mw was lying so I'd poo on the floor just to prove her wrong!!!

    Nope. Not poop. Baby.

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    The pain is a slow build up when you do it naturally ( for most) it's like a cramp that increases over time . When in established labour these cramps become regular , in between the pain is rest time , you won't feel pain , eventually the pain does become quite hard to cope with but for most this signals the end is close. then your actually using the cramps to push the baby out .

    It's pretty painful but you are so focused and so in the moment your ability to cope is far better . I've had 3 drug free vaginal births ( asked for epidural but never got one !!???) and I'm the biggest wimp .... Cannot even wax my legs . It's scary but you get through with the right mind set.


    Everyone has a different approach to birth, everyone's labour is unique. Don't read horror stories( my first birth was a horror ) they happen but don't apply it to your labour. Don't over read or over think. Enjoy being pregnant . The labour day will be what it is and as a human you have instinct and you will get through it and be so so proud! My second labour was the most joyous day of my life . I hope that for you.

    Don't worry about it too much for now , you have a while to go and you may find you cope well and may even enjoy it.

    I recommend signing up for calm birth , it will help you see birth as natural and empowering . Good luck , we are all terrified but its SO worth it xx hug


 

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