I get what you're saying.... In reality it's a very powerless job being a SAHM - powerless with respect to if hubby does decide to leave and not continue to support you in that lifestyle, you then have to start over having lost your financial security and job/career skills in the case you need to return to work. I know many grown adults who while they appreciate and love their mothers, they have said things like 'I just wish she had have done more' or 'she didn't do anything, she was a SAHM'.... It's not that they're meaning to insult their mothers, but they kinda have. I guess the difference these days is that women (and men) can choose whether they want to be a SAHP whereas in our mother's generation women often didn't have much choice and were pressured into it, which lead to a widespread discontent and this perception they were bored, or boring.