when he is at school I can come and go as I please to work which I only intend to do to pay for his school fees and to let DH have some time off with his son!
The harsh reality is...as great as being a LONG TERM SAHM is...it's simply not realistic in today's climate. Or even my mother's climate. She's slogging her guts out right now trying to build up her superannuation...she can't even be a proper grandma...she also has emphysema (sp?).
I myself,became separated and divorced and left with 4 kids and no prospects. It was then that I realised that I'd made a very bad decision all this time. A decision I haven't get corrected...so if something happened to my husband I'd litterally be up sh!ts creek...as he would if something happened to me (co-dependant)
So yes I do know...and I most certainly teaching my girls that as great as being a long term sahm is..and how important it is, it simply isn't a wise choice. And I'll tell anyone who listens the same thing!!!
isn't that why we have kids??? We look after them and they have to look after us
Haha. But I plan on using that cultural card and living with my kids. I'll divide my time equally between them.
That's what my paternal grandmother did. She had 4 children in 2 countries and would spend 3mths of the year with each child. When with us (June-aug) it was great! My parents got to have trips away, go out and she was an amazing cook!!
I'm not sure where you've gone in all of this OP.
Having just re-read your OP I really think for the most part it is judgemental, derogatory and ignorant.
If you think that employability and financial independence are the only ways to be a 'role model' then you're misguided.
Hopefully the kind of 'example we're setting for our daughters' is to not pit women against women but to embrace the freedom of our choices.
Having in-laws who have to live on a pension because super wasnt compulsory, I can say that as a 31 year old, Ive started to take the whole thing alot more seriously. I couldnt live like they do.
A work friend always used to say to me 'put extra in Super' and I always ignored him cause I thought he was an oldie who had no idea. Now I wish I had of listened.
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