+ Reply to Thread
Page 11 of 20 FirstFirst ... 910111213 ... LastLast
Results 101 to 110 of 197
  1. #101
    Join Date
    Jul 2011
    Posts
    3,525
    Thanks
    1,890
    Thanked
    2,539
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 posts
    Quote Originally Posted by Littlemissellie View Post
    So a sahm whos partner works is not motivated or inspiring and lacks intrests and passion because she doesnt earn a wage?

    Wow.

    Sent from my GT-I9100T using BubHub
    I didn't say that...! **** I'm not going to keep defending myself but please stop putting words in my mouth people!

  2. #102
    Join Date
    Mar 2008
    Posts
    6,311
    Thanks
    2,387
    Thanked
    4,599
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 postsAmethyst Star - 5,000 posts

    Default Stay at home mum vs career mum

    I've done both working and staying at home.

    Right now staying at home suits me.

    I feel more motivated and more inspired.

    As well as mothering and housekeeping I get to indulge my creative side and dabble in some business things that interest me. I didn't have time to do that when I was working.

    That's me though. Other people are entirely different and I'd never presume to know what they want or their family needs.

  3. #103
    Join Date
    Sep 2008
    Location
    Toowoomba
    Posts
    8,747
    Thanks
    2,851
    Thanked
    1,440
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 postsAmethyst Star - 5,000 posts
    Quote Originally Posted by BlissedOut View Post
    Mmm, they aren't good role models... etc...

    How about my husbands dependency on me to care for our children so he can pursue his career? Does that make him a bad role model?
    Excellent point!!!! I might be not as deserving of respect because I am dependant on my husband financially but what does it mean when my husband is dependant on me to take care of our children so he is free to make the money that I'm suppose to be dependant on?

  4. The Following User Says Thank You to Deserama For This Useful Post:

    SoThisIsLove  (22-10-2012)

  5. #104
    Join Date
    Oct 2012
    Posts
    4,953
    Thanks
    3,680
    Thanked
    1,949
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 posts

    Default Re: Stay at home mum vs career mum

    Quote Originally Posted by BlackEyedPea View Post
    I didn't say that...! **** I'm not going to keep defending myself but please stop putting words in my mouth people!
    Could you please explain what you meant then by saying those exact things about a parent who is financially dependant on another? They were your exact words and thats how i and others seem to have read it?

    Thank you.

    Sent from my GT-I9100T using BubHub

  6. #105
    Join Date
    Jun 2005
    Location
    At the beach
    Posts
    10,495
    Thanks
    1,430
    Thanked
    9,003
    Reviews
    3
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 postsAmethyst Star - 5,000 postsEmerald Star - 10,000 posts
    Awards:
    Busiest Member of the Week - week ended 17/10/14100 Posts in a week
    Quote Originally Posted by FearlessLeader View Post
    I think people have very different ideas about what everyone's talking about when they say 'stay at home mum'. To me, there's a big difference between taking off work for the years when your kids are young, with the intention of going back to work one day (and hopefully keep their qualifications up in order to do so), and being a housewife forever. This will probably upset people, but yep if you are going to stay home after your kids are well and truly self sufficient (or even moved out of home) then I don't think you're a good role model. I don't. Cleaning an entire house takes a couple of hours a day, absolute maximum if you live in a mansion.
    Cooking dinner- an hour. If your kids are at school from 9-3, well if I were the working parent I would sure feel like I got a dud deal. *dons flame proof vest*

    Sent from my HTC Sensation Z710a using BubHub
    I definitely used to feel that way, until DD1 started primary school and I realised how much there is to do at school. Most state schools (I can only speak of that as that's my only experience) only function because a small number of parents don't work and are able to volunteer and run the canteen, the book fairs, the fundraising, and that's before you even get to the stuff that relates to DD's class only (parent helpr, reading). Our school wouldn't survive without sahp who are prepared to devote a lot of time to the school.

  7. The Following 4 Users Say Thank You to Sonja For This Useful Post:

    Annabella  (28-10-2012),Lewbaby  (22-10-2012),MissMuppet  (22-10-2012),SoThisIsLove  (22-10-2012)

  8. #106
    Join Date
    Sep 2008
    Location
    Toowoomba
    Posts
    8,747
    Thanks
    2,851
    Thanked
    1,440
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 postsAmethyst Star - 5,000 posts
    Quote Originally Posted by BlackEyedPea View Post
    In the context of what I was saying though and not so black and white, I think in terms of being a role model, a role model for me is someone who lives by example, is inspiring and motivated. I don't look down on people's life choices, but I don't necessarily see dependency or lack of interests and passion as role model worthy.
    So passion for one's children...that doesn't tickle your tastebuds at all? How about a man's dependency on there partner to take care of the kids and home while he's working? He's not a good role model either then?

    Ok ...cool...I can dig that. I think it's very short sighted but I respect your opinion to think less of those who YOU deem dependant and who lack interests and passion (in your opinion anyway as I've got plenty of interests and passion...just not in the topic that you approve of I presume...but that's cool )

  9. The Following User Says Thank You to Deserama For This Useful Post:

    SoThisIsLove  (22-10-2012)

  10. #107
    Join Date
    Jul 2008
    Posts
    21,647
    Thanks
    15,089
    Thanked
    11,255
    Reviews
    14
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 postsAmethyst Star - 5,000 postsEmerald Star - 10,000 postsRuby Star - 15,000 postsDiamond Star - 20,000 posts
    Awards:
    Busiest Member of the WeekBusiest Member of the Week - week ended 5/2/14Busiest Member of the Week - week ended 31/10/14Busiest Member of the Week - week ended 24/10/14Busiest Member of the Week
    This all I am going to say on this subject.

    I AM A BLOODY GOOD ROLE MODEL TO MY KIDS.

    I am a SAHM now and have been for 20 years (with the exception of 6 months when dh was studying in the USA.) I don't plan on going back to work. My eldest child is doing fantastic at uni and my other are doing their best at school overcoming their challenges.

    I love being a stay home mum, my kids love me being a sahm. My eldest is a feminist studying gender studies at uni and often tells me how blessed she was to have me at home through her childhood and teenager years.

    I don't give 2 hoots what anyone else thinks of me, my family love me being home for them. My husband would be lost without me running our home and doing all the finances. We are happy with how we live. It's not for everyone but it is perfect for us.

  11. The Following 5 Users Say Thank You to LoveLivesHere For This Useful Post:

    Amiedoll  (23-10-2012),Lincolns mummy  (23-10-2012),MissMuppet  (22-10-2012),mrswhitehouse  (22-10-2012),RobinSparkles  (23-10-2012)

  12. #108
    Join Date
    Feb 2009
    Location
    my house
    Posts
    17,696
    Thanks
    1,391
    Thanked
    7,285
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 postsAmethyst Star - 5,000 postsEmerald Star - 10,000 postsRuby Star - 15,000 posts

    Default Stay at home mum vs career mum

    Quote Originally Posted by Sonja View Post
    I definitely used to feel that way, until DD1 started primary school and I realised how much there is to do at school. Most state schools (I can only speak of that as that's my only experience) only function because a small number of parents don't work and are able to volunteer and run the canteen, the book fairs, the fundraising, and that's before you even get to the stuff that relates to DD's class only (parent helpr, reading). Our school wouldn't survive without sahp who are prepared to devote a lot of time to the school.
    I am a primary school teacher and we don't rely on parents for any of those things.

    We have a woman who runs out canteen and it's her business. She operates out of about 10 schools.

    We do all our own fundraising, book fairs, fetes. The p & c will get involved, but that is a handful of people.

    We don't have any parent helpers.

  13. #109
    FearlessLeader's Avatar
    FearlessLeader is offline Winner 2013 - Most Memorable Thread
    Join Date
    Oct 2009
    Posts
    10,724
    Thanks
    2,498
    Thanked
    9,116
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 postsAmethyst Star - 5,000 postsEmerald Star - 10,000 posts

    Default Re: Stay at home mum vs career mum

    Quote Originally Posted by Sonja View Post
    I definitely used to feel that way, until DD1 started primary school and I realised how much there is to do at school. Most state schools (I can only speak of that as that's my only experience) only function because a small number of parents don't work and are able to volunteer and run the canteen, the book fairs, the fundraising, and that's before you even get to the stuff that relates to DD's class only (parent helpr, reading). Our school wouldn't survive without sahp who are prepared to devote a lot of time to the school.
    What about once they're in high school?
    And I'm sure some parents devote lots of time to the school, but many more just put in a token effort. I've always been involved in schools where the majority of parents both work, and so the parent volunteers tend to be the ones who have one child at school and one at kinder a few mornings a week, for example. Or they work part time, or do shift work, or come in on their RDOs. And those schools run just fine.

    Sent from my HTC Sensation Z710a using BubHub

  14. #110
    Join Date
    May 2011
    Posts
    7,878
    Thanks
    3,397
    Thanked
    5,160
    Reviews
    8
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 postsAmethyst Star - 5,000 posts
    I didn't realise being a good role model was dependent on being in paid work.

    I thought it was based on the kind of impact you made wherever and whatever you're doing.

  15. The Following User Says Thank You to babyla For This Useful Post:

    babynomad  (22-10-2012)


 

Similar Threads

  1. Do you ever stay at home all day?
    By chubbasmummy in forum Stay At Home Mums (SAHMs) Chat
    Replies: 36
    Last Post: 04-10-2012, 13:58
  2. Stay at Home Dad
    By Fergz in forum Dads Chat
    Replies: 7
    Last Post: 02-10-2012, 14:03
  3. What have YOU given up to be a stay at home mum
    By mamma2rubypie in forum Stay At Home Mums (SAHMs) Chat
    Replies: 8
    Last Post: 07-01-2012, 17:37

Posting Permissions

  • You may not post new threads
  • You may not post replies
  • You may not post attachments
  • You may not edit your posts
free weekly newsletters | sign up now!
who are these people who write great posts? meet our hubbub authors!
Learn how you can contribute to the hubbub!

reviews
learn how you can become a reviewer!

competitions

forum - chatting now
christmas gift guidesee all Red Stocking
Tambo Teddies
Visit our online store and select your individually handmade natural sheepskin teddy bear. Our soft and loveable bears come in a range of styles and colours. Created in Outback Queensland each bear is unique individual. 100% Australian made!
sales & new stuffsee all
Bub Hub Sales Listing
HAVING A SALE? Let parents know about it with a Bub Hub Sales listing. Listings are featured on our well trafficked Sales Page + selected randomly to appear on EVERY page
featured supporter
Impressionable Kids
Impressionable Kids are Australia's leader in framed children's memorabilia and specialise in framed baby hand and feet sculptures. With franchise locations throughout Australia you can be assured you will receive a quality handmade product with a lifetime warranty on all frames.
gotcha
X

Pregnant for the first-time?

Not sure where to start? We can help!

Our Insider Programs for pregnancy first-timers will lead you step-by-step through the 14 Pregnancy Must Dos!