Let me preface this post with telling you that I don't wish to offend anyone, I simply want to hear some different perspectives about something I've been thinking about recently.
A bit of background on me - I'm 23 years old and currently 23 weeks pregnant with my first child and have found out we're expecting a daughter. I have a fantastic job in my chosen career path. I enrolled in my Masters shortly before falling pregnant as I didn't want to put my life on hold whilst TTC however fell pregnant the first month of trying, then the exhaustion took over and I had to defer my studies.
My mum was a SAHM, so she picked me up from school every day and I could always have friends over after school and would often come home to yummy treats that she'd been baking and a very clean house. Whilst I loved having my mum around and didn't really understand why I could never go to my others friends houses after school (most of their mums worked), I've started to wonder whether SAHM's are providing a good example to their daughters. I was shown that my mum is capable of so much love, and is good at being a homemaker, however didn't have a professional female role model in my life until my sister (who is 12 years older than me) started working in a large bank and worked her way up through the ranks quickly. It got me thinking that SAHM's stay home with their children to love and nurture them which I think is fantastic, but in terms of life skills and employability, is this really the example that we should be setting for our daughters? Also, my mum has and will always be financially dependent on my dad. Luckily they have a beautiful, loving marriage of 30+ years, however if it wasn't so good, would mum feel that she could leave and survive on her own? What example is that setting?
For me at this stage, financially I can't be a SAHM so will only be taking 6 months off before returning to work (albeit part-time to begin with), but even if I could, I don't think I'd want to be anyway. I want to show my daughter that you can be an intelligent, professional, independent female as well as a mum; the two don't have to be mutually exclusive.
Looking forward to hearing some thoughts on this... Though again, I don't intend to offend with my post!