Hi, as the title says, our kids just argue and whinge and procrastinate over everything and it is making me crazy. I find myself screaming at them daily. I know this is the wrong thing to do, and that its hurtful and damaging to them.
I am worried I am going to lose it and hurt them physically if I can't work out some ways to calm them down and get them to stop arguing and complaining constantly about absolutely everything.
They never do what they are asked to do, even if it is for something they want i.e. if they ask to go to the park and I say yes lets go you need to get dressed, they refuse to get dressed for at least 30 minutes, then once we're outside they won't get in the car... and on and on and on.
The whining is constant - just the sound of it makes my blood boil.
I don't feel like doing anything nice for them. I don't feel like letting them make any decisions (vegemite or peanut butter kind of decisions), I just want to say "look, you are making everything so hard that you get nothing at all until you can start being reasonable".
Only thing is... maybe they are totally normal and this is all totally normal behaviour and I am supposed to be insane because that's what parenting is all about?
Do you think they are bored or lonely? Do I need to stimulate them more or put them to bed earlier or ? ? ? I just don't know anymore!
They sleep from around 7.30pm to 6am. They have a balanced diet with limited treats i.e. toast with pb or vegemite for brekkie, plain milk, sandwiches and veggie sticks for lunch, fruit and yogurt for snacks, and always balanced dinners with plenty of veg and rice and meat. They watch about 1.5 hours tv per day, from 6-630 when they wake up and I am on the treadmill, and again from about 4.30-5.30 in the evening while I am doing dinner and winding down from work.
DD is in kindergarten and after school care for 3 days, and DS is in family day care 8.15-5.30 the same 3 days.
Our family is under a lot of pressure at the moment, we have a terminally ill person in our immediate family and I am also running a very small business outside of my 3 days of work outside the home - do you think they are picking up on my stress and anxiety?
Maybe our routine has nothing to do with it and its all about my reactions and responses to their behaviour... I don't know?