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    Default need help re suing for child support with no name on birth certificate

    hi girls
    i need some advice..
    especially from anyone who lives in w.a.

    I have a 4.5 year old daughter.
    I was in a relationship with her 'father' when i fell pregnant.
    he didnt want her and tried and pushed and pressured me into a termination..
    but i couldnt do it..
    in the end he became so nasty that i went overseas to live with family.
    i asked him in 2009 if he would help out.. even just a box of nappies or something
    and he replied 'i'd rather kill you both and then myself..i hope you both burn in hell' .. 'you're a useless lying ***** who got pregnant on purpose ( which i did not do ).. I will never let you sponge from me'.

    so i left it.. because.. honestly i felt too intimidated...
    too afraid of what he would do..

    anyways..
    i am a fulltime student.. im working my rear end off trying to finish my social work degree as quickly as possible..
    money is becoming a massive, massive issues..
    i have paid for everything since before she was born..

    and everything keeps just getting more and more expensive..
    electricity, food, petrol, her dancing, gymnastics, school shoes.. school uniforms ect

    i can't make ends meet.. and i am so sick and tired of the fact that he can't even pay half of a school dress.. nothing..

    he is a computer scientist and earns over a 100 grand a year..

    i am afraid of his reaction.. but i cant pay for everything on my own anymore.
    i can't enroll her in dancing this term as i cant get the money together
    and its not fair that she has to go without..when her father legally should help me pay for this kind of stuff.

    so i have to be brave and do it for her sake.

    he isnt listed on her birth certificate
    so how do i do this?
    has anyone done this?
    can it be backdated to when she was born?
    do i sue him?
    what rights does he have?
    will i have to ask his permission for everything ?
    can someone help me please?

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    I dont know for sure, but I am 99% sure that you cant get anything if his name isnt on the birth certificate.
    Sorry. I hope you can find another way to make ends meet

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    Default Re: need help re suing for child support with no name on birth certificate

    Firstly you need to ring csa and register with them you give them his details they will contact him if he says he isnt the father or doesnt believe it then it will become that he has to do a dna test court orderd of course! But contact csa and centerlink ASAP and they should assist you with it all

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    i contacted the csa.. and spoke to someone.. who told me
    that as there is no proof of paternity.. that they couldnt help me
    and that i should contact a lawyer

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    Default Re: need help re suing for child support with no name on birth certificate

    Contact yur nearest legal aid centr and speak to a lawyer there they can help you get a court orderd dna test and then you will be able to go from there with csa and centerlink etc

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    Default Re: need help re suing for child support with no name on birth certificate

    Also if you have any messages anything at all of him admitting hes the father it will help

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    why do they do this?
    can a father seriously not care whether his child eats or has clothing or a roof over their head?
    how can they fight to not take care of their own flesh and blood i dont understand?

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    Quote Originally Posted by charlottesmama View Post
    why do they do this?
    can a father seriously not care whether his child eats or has clothing or a roof over their head?
    how can they fight to not take care of their own flesh and blood i dont understand?
    Some parents just don't care. Having the same 'flesh and blood' doesn't automatically mean a person feels warmth or love for their offspring. Given his comments about you and your DD I would be thinking seriously about him being on the birth certificate. If he was on the BC he could decide to apply for access with DD. He may not really care about her but if he thought it would annoy or upset you then he may do it. I wouldn't take the risk. I would look for other ways of getting extra money or reviewing my budget. I would hate for my child to have to spend time in the company of someone who didn't treasure them.

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    I agree with the above comment. He sounds like he could be the type of person that would go for access just to spite you and you may not have any control over that so keep that in mind.

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    Default need help re suing for child support with no name on birth certificate

    There's plenty of men out there denying paternity, of course they can be made responsible! It does require a court ordered paternity test, but given you're financial struggle you should be eligible for legal aid. I fear going through this situation myself, the father has never questioned paternity, but hadn't decided whether he wants to be in her life or not, now he's ignoring my calls. He has chosen to not be on the birth certificate but I will fight to make him financially responsible!


 

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