Would you be upset?

[MilkOnTap]

Yerrr - I hate that line. I'm forever reminding hubby of all the thing that I gave up so that I could be with him (career + promotion; family; friends; great home; awesome lifestyle; the lot.)

Fortunately he understands

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[sharvs]

Sorry he wont come around, but I am guessing he will go and you will stand by your man and be the bigger person and he will feel guilty as well he should.

Hugs

Its so true, the ones left behind are the ones that deserve the medal & the parade. No doubting they do it tough but damn so do we.....

Thanks for that, I might just take you up on that offer

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[sharvs]

DF & I have spoken twice since the whole ROCL thing came up, but neither of us has bought it up. I dont want to fight with him when phone calls are so rare as it is.

I'm accepting the fact that he isnt coming home & even starting to see it from his point of view. It is a great opportunity for him, he may never get the chance to go to Europe again.

He sent me a little suprise yesterday, 12 long stem roses - and it isnt even my birthday! They are beautiful. Even though he can be an a**hole sometimes, he really does love me. He isnt completley off the hook yet, but it was a lovely thing for him to do.

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How are things between you and your DH now Sharon?

[sharvs]

We havent spoken since. Hes sent me a few emails but he wont bring up ROCL at all, even when I ask him questions. He did sent an email to a friend of ours saying he is going to Europe for 2 weeks & how excited he is.

I'm not doing that well. I cant get over it, i thought I would just be able to accept it and move on but I cant. I'm having alot of second thoughts about our relationship. It hurts me so much that he doesnt want to be here to see his son. I dont know what to do. Everyone i speak to tells me not to go on about it to him, because it will only make it worse & how I dont understand what its like over there. Both good points but I'm sick of having to be miserable just so he is happy.

I'm at a complete loss.... I just cant get over it, no matter how hard I try.

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[sharvs]

DF just rang me, first time in over a week. He said he rang his dad & his dad gave him a hard time about not coming home for ROCL. DF said to me "he can get f**ked. I'm sick of people telling me what to do. I'm not going to ring him anymore".

I didnt say anything. I'm so miserable. I'm starting to think I need to talk to someone. I really dont know if I want to be with him. The problem is we cant talk properly. This phone call was all of 5 minutes & he said he wont be able to ring for quite a while now. I dont want to waste the next 6 months of my life sitting here, being so unhappy.... but i dont want to make a life changing move given the current circumstances.

I can tell DF hates ringing me because he's worried what sort of reaction he will get from me. I havent yelled at him, I'm just a bit quiet - I'm too hurt to pretend I'm ok. I love him with all my heart but I'm not going to sacrifice my happiness or the happiness of my son.

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Sharvs it must be soo hard
you gotta talk to someone