Waiting...there is nothing that can be said to make you feel better. Cry, grieve, get angry...do whatever you need to to cope. I lost both mine at 7 weeks, and it was the most awful experience of my life. I cried so much. The only thing that kept me going was my OBGYN...like you, I have a toddler, and she said 1-2 miscarriages in a woman's child-bearing years is quite common...but statistically, since you have carried to term before, your odds of a next successful pregnancy are very good. She was right in my case, and you will be the same.