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    Default kids' b'day party n dp's step dad

    ok, my mil was remarried b4 i got wid dp. and my kids' joint b'day party is comkin up at the start of nxt yr. my concern is this- my dp's step dad is so opinionated that his opinion is the only 1 that matters n that everyone else has 2 have the same as is, that's how i see it. n i'm really concerned that its gonna start a massive fight at the kids' party. i come from a family where i was raised to form my own opinion on a subject with wat info i was given and to respect everyone else's. n it bugs me to no end whenever i try to give my own opinion, especially around dp's stepdad, if its completely different to his. it sucks even more coz i get along with mil really well and i have alot of fun with her.

    so, the problem i am putting out there is this- what should i do about dp's highly opinionated stepdad with the kids' b'day and make sure that his opinions don't start a fight?

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    Default kids' b'day party n dp's step dad

    I'd tell him opinions are like bum holes every ones got one bot everyone wants to hear it and to keep it to himself my mother is the same way it's her way or highway and if you disagree you should be burned at the stake. I told her straight up I don't want to hear it and if she carrys on she won't be invited. Seems to have gotten the message across. You have to be firm with people like this and not back down

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    my mil tries to tell him that all them time. he doesnt even listen to her about when she does. he just blantantly ignores anyone when they tell him that. there's the total n obnoxious level of arrogance then there's my dp's stepdad.

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    Why are you inviting him?

    Can't you say, look MIL we love to have you, but this is OUR child's party and step-dad makes us and everyone else uncomfortable and we won't have it in our house or in front of our guests.

    You're adults. If he doesn't have social etiquette that's not YOUR problem. I wouldn't have him. And if your MIL decides not to come, that's sad, but maybe she should say "listen YOU are causing friction in my family.... change or you won't be invited."

    Why should you feel uncomfortable at your own child's birthday?!

    And what makes him so super superior to everyone else that his comfort and 'right' to come to the party are more important than yours?

    You don't have to have ANYONE around who doesn't increase your comfort... how are you going to enjoy the party when you're worried about what some (obviously) immature adult who hasn't learnt to hold their tongue and use tact is saying to your guests.

    It will be a cold day in hell I had that happen at one of my kids birthdays again.. I've had to do a LOT of breaking in family relationships this year. If other adults don't know how to behave... well you know what? Maybe it's time they LEARNT to!.
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