+ Reply to Thread
Page 5 of 6 FirstFirst ... 3456 LastLast
Results 41 to 50 of 52
  1. #41
    Join Date
    Oct 2009
    Posts
    5,276
    Thanks
    3,697
    Thanked
    3,090
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 postsAmethyst Star - 5,000 posts
    Quote Originally Posted by Renesme View Post
    Well to be honest if he is working long hours to support you and the family then I think you shouldn't be mentioning how tired you are or whatever especially if you regularly get lots more sleep than him!!
    Ohhh no - I can't agree with this.

    In a relationship both parties should be able to sound off and support each other. I would hate to be in a relationship where I felt that I couldn't mention how upset I was/ tired I was because my husband worked long hours?!!

    To my mind, if he works long hours then he has every right to complain about how tired he is. And if his partner is tired after a day with the children, then she has every right to complain about how tired she is too.

    Both are important jobs in terms of supporting and developing the family. One is not more important than the other. In that set-up both parties are splitting duties to ensure the family is supported. Both can complain as much as they like, and both can (or should) support each other as much as they can.

  2. The Following 4 Users Say Thank You to Guest654 For This Useful Post:

    LoveLivesHere  (17-10-2012),peanutmonkey  (17-10-2012),SoThisIsLove  (17-10-2012),Theophania  (17-10-2012)

  3. #42
    Join Date
    May 2012
    Posts
    1,055
    Thanks
    1,493
    Thanked
    602
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 posts

    Default Does your partner get cranky...

    Quote Originally Posted by Renesme View Post
    Well to be honest if he is working long hours to support you and the family then I think you shouldn't be mentioning how tired you are or whatever especially if you regularly get lots more sleep than him!!
    I've found it's a different kind of tired though much like a tired office worker and a tired labourer. Both are tired at the end if the day but just because an office worker hasn't been as physically active as say, a bricklayer doesn't mean the office worker shouldn't complain how tired he us to a brickie

  4. #43
    Join Date
    Apr 2012
    Posts
    12,705
    Thanks
    9,557
    Thanked
    12,687
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 postsAmethyst Star - 5,000 postsEmerald Star - 10,000 posts
    Awards:
    Busiest Member of the Week - week ended 9/1/15Busiest Member of the Week - week ended 7/11/14Busiest Member of the Week - week ended 3/10/14100 Posts in a week

    Default Does your partner get cranky...

    Quote Originally Posted by Theophania View Post
    Or he could stop being a sook and start respecting what his wife already does at home...
    Respect and understanding goes both ways. Why does the husband have to bend over and pray to the wife every day if the wife doesn't even have to try and understand the pressures the husband is under?

  5. #44
    Join Date
    Apr 2012
    Posts
    12,705
    Thanks
    9,557
    Thanked
    12,687
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 postsAmethyst Star - 5,000 postsEmerald Star - 10,000 posts
    Awards:
    Busiest Member of the Week - week ended 9/1/15Busiest Member of the Week - week ended 7/11/14Busiest Member of the Week - week ended 3/10/14100 Posts in a week

    Default Does your partner get cranky...

    Quote Originally Posted by Renesme View Post
    Well to be honest if he is working long hours to support you and the family then I think you shouldn't be mentioning how tired you are or whatever especially if you regularly get lots more sleep than him!!
    I agree.

  6. #45
    Theophania's Avatar
    Theophania is offline 'see what had happened was..there were these three ninjas and a blue monkey and well it really wasn't my fault..'
    Join Date
    Nov 2009
    Location
    Brisbane
    Posts
    3,075
    Thanks
    819
    Thanked
    832
    Reviews
    1
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 posts
    Quote Originally Posted by VicPark View Post
    Respect and understanding goes both ways. Why does the husband have to bend over and pray to the wife every day if the wife doesn't even have to try and understand the pressures the husband is under?
    I would never say that a husband has to 'bend over and pray to the wife everyday' But there is no excuse for a partner in a relationship to be disrespectful and rude, no matter how tired they are. I also never said the wife doesn't need to understand a husbands stress, but is should be something that is discussed and shared not shown by someone stomping around slamming doors at 5 am and saying hurtful little comments...

  7. The Following 2 Users Say Thank You to Theophania For This Useful Post:

    Guest654  (17-10-2012),missie_mackxxxx  (18-10-2012)

  8. #46
    Theophania's Avatar
    Theophania is offline 'see what had happened was..there were these three ninjas and a blue monkey and well it really wasn't my fault..'
    Join Date
    Nov 2009
    Location
    Brisbane
    Posts
    3,075
    Thanks
    819
    Thanked
    832
    Reviews
    1
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 posts
    Quote Originally Posted by Renesme View Post
    Well to be honest if he is working long hours to support you and the family then I think you shouldn't be mentioning how tired you are or whatever especially if you regularly get lots more sleep than him!!
    Wow really. I didn't realise when I had children it meant I had to become a mute servant to my husband... Funny thing is I am stilla person I still get tired and I still have stress and I would be pretty ****ed off if my husband expected me to just get on with it because 'he supports me'....

  9. The Following 2 Users Say Thank You to Theophania For This Useful Post:

    missie_mackxxxx  (18-10-2012),peanutmonkey  (17-10-2012)

  10. #47
    Join Date
    Feb 2009
    Location
    my house
    Posts
    17,695
    Thanks
    1,391
    Thanked
    7,284
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 postsAmethyst Star - 5,000 postsEmerald Star - 10,000 postsRuby Star - 15,000 posts

    Default Does your partner get cranky...

    My husband would never say that!

    I leave him alone with the kids occasionally on a Sunday afternoon/evening whilst I go to the movies or out with friends. Those few hours show him how difficult two kids can be. Sometimes I even go away for the night on a Saturday. I think he's grateful for work the next day

  11. #48
    Join Date
    Apr 2012
    Posts
    12,705
    Thanks
    9,557
    Thanked
    12,687
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 postsAmethyst Star - 5,000 postsEmerald Star - 10,000 posts
    Awards:
    Busiest Member of the Week - week ended 9/1/15Busiest Member of the Week - week ended 7/11/14Busiest Member of the Week - week ended 3/10/14100 Posts in a week

    Default Does your partner get cranky...

    Quote Originally Posted by Theophania View Post
    Wow really. I didn't realise when I had children it meant I had to become a mute servant to my husband... Funny thing is I am stilla person I still get tired and I still have stress and I would be pretty ****ed off if my husband expected me to just get on with it because 'he supports me'....
    I think you skipped over the last past of Renesme's post where she said especially of you regularly get more sleep. If someone (man or woman) regularly gets more sleep and then acts as though the other person doesn't have a right to complain then that's wrong.

  12. #49
    Join Date
    Apr 2012
    Posts
    12,705
    Thanks
    9,557
    Thanked
    12,687
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 postsAmethyst Star - 5,000 postsEmerald Star - 10,000 posts
    Awards:
    Busiest Member of the Week - week ended 9/1/15Busiest Member of the Week - week ended 7/11/14Busiest Member of the Week - week ended 3/10/14100 Posts in a week

    Default Does your partner get cranky...

    Quote Originally Posted by Theophania View Post
    I would never say that a husband has to 'bend over and pray to the wife everyday' But there is no excuse for a partner in a relationship to be disrespectful and rude, no matter how tired they are. I also never said the wife doesn't need to understand a husbands stress, but is should be something that is discussed and shared not shown by someone stomping around slamming doors at 5 am and saying hurtful little comments...
    Points taken and I sort of agree. But stress can cause a man/women to do things they arent proud of upon reflection..

  13. #50
    Join Date
    Apr 2009
    Posts
    4,589
    Thanks
    1,302
    Thanked
    2,569
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 posts
    DF never complains about lack of sleep. Though he has just left a job where he was getting up at 430am and not he gets up at 7am so he is very happy with that! Even when he was up at 430am six days a week he never complained.
    If he did walk around slamming doors id be telling to grow up!


 

Similar Threads

  1. Would you be cranky?
    By intruderalert1234 in forum Issues with Family Members
    Replies: 13
    Last Post: 18-10-2012, 15:18
  2. Cranky while feeding
    By lady22bugg in forum Breastfeeding Support
    Replies: 6
    Last Post: 17-08-2012, 19:10

Posting Permissions

  • You may not post new threads
  • You may not post replies
  • You may not post attachments
  • You may not edit your posts
free weekly newsletters | sign up now!
who are these people who write great posts? meet our hubbub authors!
Learn how you can contribute to the hubbub!

reviews
learn how you can become a reviewer!

competitions

forum - chatting now
christmas gift guidesee all Red Stocking
Mother and Baby Shop
Save $$$ during our Christmas Sale Mother and Baby Shop
Great prices on Schoenhut kids pianos, toys, baby clothing as well as big brands like Pigeon, NUK, Cherub Baby and many more. Sale starts on 1 November 2016 and ends on the 27 December 2016. Hurry! Place your order today!
sales & new stuffsee all
Pea Pods
Buy 2 Award Winning Pea Pods Reusable One Size Nappies for only $38 (in your choice of colours) and receive a FREE roll of Bamboo Liners. Don't miss out, we don't usually have discounts on the nappies, so grab this special offer!
Special Offer! Save $12
featured supporter
L'il Aussie Prems Foundation
An Australian charity supporting families of premature babies & children. The charity assists families who are at high risk of giving birth prematurely, who have babies currently in hospital and families with toddlers who were born too soon.
gotcha
X

Pregnant for the first-time?

Not sure where to start? We can help!

Our Insider Programs for pregnancy first-timers will lead you step-by-step through the 14 Pregnancy Must Dos!