Just be careful about the affect this can have on the child. It can be seen as an intentional move to alienate a child from their bio parent and replace them with the new man in mum's life. And every child has a right to know they are a part of their bio parent even if that parent doesn't have full custody.
My hubby had divorced parents, the mum had full custody (dad had visitation in holidays) and one year his mum hyphenated hubby's name at school. He hated it. It screamed "I'm from a broken home" and hubby later came to resent the fact the mother was trying to force a new dad on him. The mother chose a new hubby, the kid didn't chose a new dad. To be honest the step dad would have been better off just trying to spend quality time with the hubby and forgetting about the name change.
I'm fairly sure not seeing your child for 6 years is intentionally alienating.
Having their name changed doesn't mean you are taking rights away for them to know who their biological parent is.
From what I can gather from op, the child is at least 8, and IMO old enough to decide her name!
Hopefully Waiting (18-10-2012)
I wish more women would actually consider giving the children their surname.... Sorry OP a bit off-topic just sayin. It was a no-brainier for me. I live that he has my surname
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