Hi all just looking for opinions and different perspectives on an issue I'm having with MIL.
My MIL smokes pretty much non-stop. It has never bothered me much before but with the baby coming I'm concerned about it. It also makes me feel sick at the moment so I don't like to stay long at her house if it can be avoided. I asked my husband to bring it up with her as I don't feel comfortable with bringing the baby over to her house knowing that she will smoke regardless. I am pretty sure this will be the case as my husband has a 2 yr old daughter and she has always smoked around her from what dh tells me.
I realise I can't really tell her what to do in her own house but is it reasonable to tell her that we won't bring the baby over if she is going to smoke around it. I of course want her to have a good relationship with the baby but I just don't want the baby inhaling that much smoke particularly early on. The amount of smoke makes me feel sick and my eyes water so I can't imagine the effect it would have on a newborn. She doesn't smoke when she is over at our house but that is a rare occurance and we are moving 2 hrs away so I don't think she'll come to our house.
I'm trying to think of a compromise between the smoke issue and wanting her to have a relationship with the baby but am not sure what would be acceptable. She just laughed it off when dh brought it up the other day. What do you all think about how I can deal with this?