My sister has had 2 kids and ate cold meats, soft cheese, and basically whatever she wanted whilst pregnant and I didn't judge her for it (she also smoked through both pregnancies but we won't go there).
Yesterday I joked to my dad that I'd love him to bring me some chicken & avocado sushi when he comes to the hospital after bub is born, and my brother asked why, and I explained the listeria risk in cold chicken and also the bacteria risk in cold rice. I explained that listeria is rare, but if the pregnant mum contracts it, there's a very high chance of death to the unborn baby. I'm not incredibly strict, ie I'm still eating takeaway foods including subway but I'm steering clear of all the major no No's. my sister then said "we'll I ate all of the foods you're not allowed to eat while I was pregnant and they're both fine" and I said "yeah I know, it's rare but I'd just rather not risk it" to which she got a smug smile on her face.
Now we're at MIL and FIL's house for dinner and I almost died when I saw MIL pull a whole, cookec chicken out of the fridge, cut it all up then put it back in the fridge... I don't want to look ungrateful but I also don't want to risk our baby's health. She's already been judgmental about our choice to keep the pregnancy quiet until 8 weeks for extended family and 12 weeks for everyone else ("you're not going to be one of those ones who won't tell people for ages are you?" When we told them I was pregnant at just 4 weeks!) so I just don't want her *****ing about me behind my back if I decide not to have any of the chicken! I'm sure she'd have a similar attitude to my sister in that 25 and 21 years ago when she had her kids, they ate what they wanted.
sorry, just had to have a big vent lol. I know I'll get judged and hear plenty of unwanted opinions once bub arrives about how we try to raise her, but I wish I could just be pregnant the way I want to be! It's not as if I'm doing anything bad, I'm trying to keep bub as safe as possible but everyone has an opinion!