So, long story short, DSS has ADHD/add/autism- SOMETHING!!!
I have been fighting my husband for two years to get him to see it and take it further.
Finally he starts to see it, brings the issue up with BM and she uummms and aaaahs but can see where I am coming from.
Book into see teacher and a doctor.
BM shows up late to appointment with teacher, dh didn't have a clue wtf needed to be said or asked or the teacher. BM actually had to ask the grade one teacher what "comprehension" meant when I used the word. (seriously!?!?)
Neither BM or dh said any of the right things to the doctor either but I managed to get him to send us to a pead.
Fast forward 3 months-
Night before the pead. Appoint. BM Texts DH and says that I am not wanted at the appointment and I have no right!
DH (again) didn't stand up for me. Didn't just agree with her and take me anyway. NOTHING!!
I am the one who fought for this kid to get help, I am the one that has researched, booked appointments, tried different tactics and ideas.
Given I am his step- mother surely that gives me the right to attend appointments? I'm not a passing fling- I am married to his father, i look after the kid!
We have 50/50 custody (although she never actually signed the paperwork) but its week on week off.
I am at a loss as to why BM would
A) not want to keep someone who cares for her child to be up to speed on all of his issues.
B) show an already insecure child that she can still drive a wedge in between his dad and me.
C) just be such a *** b!tch and exclude the one person who cared enough to do everything they could to get HER child help.
And why would my husband just do what she says? He always does- what about me!?
Slight background : dss is 7.
BM has 3 kids to 3 dads, dss is the middle child. She doesn't actually show she cares. Before custody, she actually considered taking $10,000 to p!ss off out of the kids life- if it weren't for an inheritance she recieved she would have taken it.