No I have supported him to the best of my ability, I dont think im awful to expect the same in return, he is bubs parent too, why is it unrealistic to expect him to share the load, i work just as hard on much less sleep. I do want to be with him but I don't want to make more mistakes. I just came on here to vent into cyber space because I can't really talk to anybody else, I have taken advice on board but can't help but be wounded and it's bought up past hurts I had been putting behind me. I know I shouldn't have read his phone and I wish I didn't, I won't be mentioning that to him but does anybody else have experience with a bloke that is enraged at being woken up and seems to need way more sleep than anyone else I know, it's been a huge problem in our relationship, he couldn't cope with the baby amongst many other things. I was so proud of him getting help finally, I want him to be the best person he can be for him but mostly her.