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    Default The right to scream in childbirth

    I just had my third child ( 48 hrs old , sweet little beautiful girl) . Each birth I scream at the end from transition to pushing the baby out. I'm afraid , it's bloody painful ( I never have been granted the epidural or pain relief I ask for , must just be my bad luck) .... Each time I have been pretty much scolded for it. Well I'm here to say to those midwives now ..... I have finnished having children and I feel so proud of myself . I needed to scream to find my power , to connect with the energy inside me, it felt good to scream , I couldn't give a **** about my throat or my lungs .... I needed to find my wildness and you felt the need to control me. Well stop it ! I should of said each birth to those midwives who thought I was losing control that no I was finding myself and I'm bloody proud of my achievement and proud I roared your maternity ward down for hours and proud I pushed those kids outs with all I have . I should never of appologised to you for it. You should not of made me feel like a failure because i screamed .
    Anyone else. I appreciate midwives and I know some lovely modern thinking midwives. I just got old fashioned ones .
    To anyone who is about to do natural labour in a public hospital there is no shame in screaming , you will be advised to use your voice in a different way like low tones... But for me i need to scream out loud. Do it and don't appologise like me .

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    I had an absolutely wonderful midwife who didn't care how much I vocalized throughout my contractions. I did start to get louder where I was almost about to scream at pushing stage and all she said was to use my energy to push down below rather then out through my throat.. Which made sense. I was still loud, but vocalizing rather than screaming. If your midwifes were giving you this same advice, great. If they just wanted you to be quiet, shame on them! Good on you for birthing your babies as you needed to!

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    I'm so sorry you had midwives that scolded you for screaming. I vocalised through my labour, and it was only during transition that my midwife focused on my screaming - more to get me to try to calm down and use my energy on birthing my baby, rather than using it to scream.

    Not long after DS was born, DH and I were chatting to a new dad next to us. He commented on how all the mums in birthing suite were so loud! Um, they're having babies, of course they're loud!!

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    My Ob told me to be quiet. I kicked him in the guts.

    ETA this was in a private hospital.

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    I was very vocal too through my homebirth/freebirth neighbours never heard a thing (no idea how though!!) whatever gets bub out I say

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    I was screaming (well, vocalising) way up high when I was in labour, DP asked the midwife if it was ok and she said 'perfect- she wants to push but the baby hasn't descended, so she is keeping her voice high to stop the urge to push' in fact, whenever I started grunting and making lower noises, the middies would encourage me to go back up high again to stop me pushing. so maybe be midwives weren't trying to shush you, but get you to make more of a low-down noise to help push the baby down and out?

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    Im so sorry they made you feel that way but honestly good on you for doing what you need to do! You do whatever you need to get your babies out! I was actually in a public hospital when I had DS but I picked a good night because I was the only one there. Which was a good thing because I was screaming after 2 days of labour, 2 hours of pushing and having a baby stuck in my pelvis which baby was also posterior I couldnt have cared less. Then when they took me downstairs to theatre for a vaccum delivery I screamed even more....lucky nobody told me to be quiet they would have heard much worse come out of my mouth! Good on you I agree with everything you have said

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    My midwives exact words were 'Not that all of this noise isn't very entertaining'

    It honestly changed the entire way I viewed myself and how I view my labour in retrospect. I should be so proud of myself and I feel ashamed and embarrassed. I hate that awful b!tch

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    I screamed giving birth to my first boy and was scolded for it by the midwives. Like you OP, it felt good. It felt like it was helping, so I did it. The were like dont do that, you will wake others up, put that energy into pushing blah blah blah. I just let loose and it was GOOOD lol

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    Can I ask did any of you ladies swear during childbirth?? I'll be the first to own up to having a filthy mouth and I can't see me going through labour without swearing lol


 

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