I just had my third child ( 48 hrs old , sweet little beautiful girl) . Each birth I scream at the end from transition to pushing the baby out. I'm afraid , it's bloody painful ( I never have been granted the epidural or pain relief I ask for , must just be my bad luck) .... Each time I have been pretty much scolded for it. Well I'm here to say to those midwives now ..... I have finnished having children and I feel so proud of myself . I needed to scream to find my power , to connect with the energy inside me, it felt good to scream , I couldn't give a **** about my throat or my lungs .... I needed to find my wildness and you felt the need to control me. Well stop it ! I should of said each birth to those midwives who thought I was losing control that no I was finding myself and I'm bloody proud of my achievement and proud I roared your maternity ward down for hours and proud I pushed those kids outs with all I have . I should never of appologised to you for it. You should not of made me feel like a failure because i screamed .
Anyone else. I appreciate midwives and I know some lovely modern thinking midwives. I just got old fashioned ones .
To anyone who is about to do natural labour in a public hospital there is no shame in screaming , you will be advised to use your voice in a different way like low tones... But for me i need to scream out loud. Do it and don't appologise like me .