Just curious as to how many people this hapoened to.
I know when we had one we had said we wanted 4 or 5 and then we had our second and decided we were done but got a bonus third!
I know my mum always wanted 4 too but stopped at 2 once the reality of children hit!
I admire peiple with large families, and have a few friends with 4 or 5 in their family but I also know a lot more who said they wanted a big family until they started having children and realised just how much work it is every single day and realised they coukdn't stretch themselves far enough to have a large family (which is the same for me despite.me having someone recently imply that to not have the 4-5 children I originally wanted I obviously find my children a nuisance! She is pregnant with her first...I'm curious as to how this plays out for her!! haha)
There are a thousand reasons we stopped when we did...the reality of day to day life with three, finances (I am a sahm but am studying now and we have sacrificed a lot but I know my DH feels a lot of pressure being the sole bread winner. It's not just as easy as making sacrifices), the difficulty of it all when everyone gets sick,how busy it is, the physical strain on my body (third pregnancy was so much harder than the first two and I wasn't a very fun mum which I wouldn't put my kids through again), the fact our kids aren't good sleepers and don't sleep until they are at least 2 which makes day to day life hard with other kids...hard to be fun, cool and calm when you've had three hours of broken sleep, and then the sibling arguments which just seem to get worse as they get older!
If it was down to how much we love our kids alone then we'd have a dozen...they aren't a nuisance, we just looked at what we could cope with comfortably and realised that it wasn't the 4-5 like we originally thought!
So who else has had the same experience?