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    I'd definitely tell your friends and your DH, there's no shame in having a four year old that acts like a psycho - most of them do!

    I'm sorry for your worry, but I have a 7, 4 and nearly one year old and my friends and I have so many stories about the awful things our kids have said.

    My four yr old son told me this afternoon that I wanted him to DIE.

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    I think you should ask him why he said it and work through it that way. It's important your DH is in on that conversation too. This is a family issue and you don't have the right to decide how your DH is involved in your children's upbringing.

    Just saying "don't say things like that" won't resolve any underlying issues and feelings your son might be trying to express but doesn't have the words to do so. It's important you understand where he's coming from just as it's important for him to understand how you felt when you heard those words (not that he made you sad, but it was the words that did).

    HTH

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    Thankyou everyone for your support. I will talk to my husband about it and we can work on it together. I am thinking that as it happened yesterday I would prefer not to bring it up with my 4yo today or again unless he says something similar. He may not even remember he said it. It still worries me, and I am gutted that he would say something like that, but he may not understand the context or consequence.
    Thanks heaps.

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    He doesn't go to kinder yet, but it's not far away and he does go to day care with other children his own age.
    I only hope it was a comment from him without much thought.
    Still disturbs me though.

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    At 4 my oldest said she wanted to shoot my nana across the room and kill her because she didn't like her!
    We had a good chat about what that meant, how it made me feel, what happens to people who do things like that (gaol etc.) and she never made a comment like it again.
    It's worrying hearing your kids say stuff like that but I really don't think you need to go over analysing it and seeking mental help for your son unless he continues on with it or starts trying to act these scenarios out. My oldest is nearly 7 now and perfectly normal in her development. No underlying serial killer problems

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    Hugs hun.

    I honestly don't believe your son is any different to any other 4 year old (I haven't met him) but I believe. Children at that age can't quite comprehended how serious things are and the dangers involved or the true meaning.

    My son is 4. He is a very gentle and loving soul. Yet he on occasions have come out with things that aren't quite right. I believe there are many reasons for this... Daycare, tv (even children's shows on abc), adults talking, news in the back ground etc. they pick up things from every where and sometime
    Es half stories and mould it into one. You can be surprised by some of the messages given to children through innocent children movies and abc shows, I myself have been shocked to see shows being allowed to air on there.

    Anyway be aware but make light of it, tell your husband and explain to him it's not the right thing to say etc. I would make to much fuss on it as I wouldn't want to give attention to that behaviour. I don't think seeing a specialist is a good idea either. Unless its happening often I would just put it in the basket of strange and move forward and just be aware.

    We had a pet rat die and ever since ds (4) thinks nothing much of death. Another pet almost died next week and we took it to the vet to save it, he couldn't comprehend why we would bother cause it could die anyway. He believes heaven and stars are people who have passed etc but doesn't think of the dramatic effects of death. He is also a very intelligent boy who constantly asks about the correspondence of his voice box and his brain and in depth questions about volcanos and how rain ends up coming through a tap (with needing to know ALL the ins and outs) he knows most of his body parts plus the names of his bones etc. Even different shades of a colour.

    But again when it comes to understanding the emotions of actions he isn't equipped to understand at all, I believe this is his age and nothing more nor less.

    Again please be aware but make light of it as I wouldn't want to encourage behaviour that is inappropriate by giving in attention.

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    Thankyou for all your input. I eventually shared what had happened with my husband and he was supportive of my concern. It has been a while now, but you will all be pleased to know that my older son has not done anything to try to harm his younger brother... Although we never leave them in the bath alone. Thankyou for all your comments and support.

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    Fantastic to hear!!! Sounds like you managed it well. It's strange what kids can sometimes come out with. So glad all is good now and you spoke to your hubby fantastic outcome!!

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    Also thanks for the update, nice to hear how things end up.

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    When I was little my 4yr old sister tried to flush me down the toilet and when I was 3 locked me in the dryer but couldn't work out how to turn it on! I think it can be just one of those things he may be working through jealousy feelings over the "new baby"


 

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