Not sure if im posting this in the right place i have no idea where i would put this topic...
Anyway this is why i am worried for my friend:
first ill give yous a little bit about the situation she comes from Australia but for the past 9 years she has been living in the UK she has been with her partner for about 2 years now but they broke up for about 3 months beginning of this year she came back to Aus for about 2 months then went back to see if they could work things out well they did she has always told me when she starts a family she wants to raise her kids here in oz but i dont think her partner is keen for that & this is where this problem starts:
well she rang me a few months ago & told me that her & her partner are going to TTC i was really happy for her she told me she went off the pill & i told her everything i knew as i was TTC as about 2 years agoi was ttc & it took me 9 months to conceive my little boy & also had a m/c, so just told her my experience with ttc, she was counting her periods worked out when she would ovulate etc..
she rang me about a month ago & told me she had done a test & it was positive she was so happy & i was very happy for her aswell, for the 1st 2 weeks she was so excited asking me question about being preg & giving bith etc.
then all of a sudden i got a text to call her she didnt sound very happy on the phone she said now they dont know what to do bout the baby as they still wanna travel, get a house & still come to oz for a little while... so now the last 2 weeks she doesnt know what to do about it all
ok this is why im worried: why would a person who wanted a baby to do everything to ttc with knowing when you ovulate, positions etc.. now doesnt know if they want it... im soo ****ed off with her at the moment but i just dont know what to say without losing my friendship with her?? i personally feel like her partner is pressuring into not having the baby now.. with them still wanting to travel & get a house you can still do that with a baby you might not be able to do everything you wanted but still most things....
i know this is really bad for me saying this but its strange that she was saying to me now they dont know if they want the baby now & about a week ago she said she was having really bad like period pains & the doctor thought it might be ectopic pregnancy now i dont wanna think that she would be lying bout it but it does sound strange that since they are rethinking it that this now happens? you dont have to tell me how disgusting it is of me for thinking that cos i already feel that way.. when she went to hospital they gave her a scan they said everything is going ok, but she told me last night that she is still having these pains & that she hates being this sick... nobody likes the morning sickness of pregnancy but its all apart of the wonderful us woman can do, she doesnt seem to be saying anything positive about it now & it concerns me i just dont want her to be pressured into it then regret it
i know this is so long & its prob so confusing for everyone as its so confusing to me aswell im just so so annoyed with her.. also what is annoying me is that it only took her 2 months to fall preg after stopping the pill & she goes to me we didnt think it would happen that quick as we still wanna do few things.. thats bulls**t you can miss 1 pill & it can happen it can happen at anytime..
OMG i'm so annoyed i could use other naughty words but i wont hehe im just annoyed aswell with there are so many couples out there that have been ttc for a very long time & my friend does this, you would think she would realise how silly it sounds to me as i was trying for a while & had a m/c she seen me go through all that grrrr, she found out she was preg at 4 weeks next week she will be 8 weeks why havent they don anything about it if you are rethinking it now.. i think she wants to have the baby but her partner doesnt want it... dunno what to do... can someone please help me with what can i say to her to make her realise how stupid she sounds without losing my friendship with her???