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    Default Advice on planning a baby that will be deliverd between 30-35 weeks, most likely 32wk

    I have two girls (5 and 3.5) delivered 37 and 35 weeks. I'm told if i have another it is likely that it will be 32 weeks.

    My questions are,
    how did you cope with a premmie and two older children?

    Is it unfair to have a baby when when you know it will be very early? (unfair for you existing children and to the baby new baby)

    How much pain does a premmie go through?

    what did you do to ensure you go to spend enough time with your premmie and other children during the hospital stay?

    Can your premmie go to childcare or is the risk of illness too high?

    I always wanted lots of children. I really want another, but cant decide if it is the right thing to do (or wrong!)
    btw - I get very severe cholestasis - that is the reason for the early delivery.
    All advice is welcome :-) (pros and cons)

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    bumpity bump for the morning crew

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    the chance of me not getting it again is nil... I got it very severely.. 200 times worse than normal... off the charts kinda bad! So unfair :-( Initially i was more worried about me getting too sick than the baby, but i've been to two specialists now and they assure me i'll be fine, but bub will be early... how early they dont know, but earlier than my other two :-(

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    I haven't had a prem with older children but i did have a bub at 27 wks now going on what i went through with him i would find it very hard to do now if my two other children wernt at school. I was with him 7 hrs a day and then had 2 hrs of travel a day it took up all my time for 15wks. It is taxing on you emotional and physically but if you know what you are in for and you have done all the research on what you might go through the good and the bad and you are prepared and still want a child then i say you are the only one who can make the decision for you. Check to see if the hospital has a creche and you could have your other children there for a while if you are doing a quick visit.

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    My kids were 6 and 3.5 when I had number three, born at 31+5 weeks. We live on a farm, so for 9 weeks I was in the city, hours away from my two older children and my husband.

    It was really rough on all of us and we made the decision not to have any more kids, despite the fact that we'd love more. For us, we just couldn't go through it again and I couldn't watch another baby go through what my little one did.

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    thank you everyone. I am finding these replies very helpful


 

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