So my husband and his family are bilingual, they speak English and another foreign language which I don't consider one of the major world languages likely to increase our child's future life success.
We just had a conversation about the language our child will speak and I've offended him so now he's doing the passive aggressive thing and ignoring me
Basically when we get together with his family they will all speak the other language even though they all speak fluent English, and I feel totally excluded; no one makes any effort to include me which is why I avoid his family gatherings most of the time. I just suck it up though and don't say anything because I realize they have no obligation to include me. However I told my husband I dont want his family speaking to my baby in any language besides English. He got annoyed and said he would speak to the baby in any language he chooses. I said that as the Father he has that right but I would feel left out if him and our child could speak to each other and exclude me, but it's different with his family because I don't think anyone other than him should be able to speak to our child without me understanding.
I feel strongly about this for my child's safety. I just think you can never be too careful and if someone was speaking inappropriately to my child in English I would shut it down immediately but I can't do that if I don't understand what's being said.
Anyway now he's offended and annoyed but I think this is my right as a mother and I would never let my family speak to our child in another language in front of DH without him knowing what's being said.
Am I wrong? How would you feel?