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    Default Grandparents?

    Hi there!
    I'm new to this so please bare with me. I'm not pregnant, I'm getting married next year and will be trying to have a baby not too long after that. My question is - if you didn't have the first grandchild/first little one in the family for a LONG time, did you feel as though your pregnancy didn't get as much excitement? From your family and you partner's? Would love any experiences and opinions.

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    None our kids were first in either side infact they were a long from it. All 6 of my kids have been welcomed and loved the same as all the others.

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    Our LO is the fourth grandchild and her grandparents adore her. She is the first girl though so that probably makes a difference. But honestly, how could grandparents not be smitten? I'm sure it will be fine

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    Ours will be the 9th grandchild and everyone is super excited

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    I have 13 cousins and I remember everyone being super-excited about the arrival of every single one. In fact, I think there was more excitement for the younger ones, as there were more cousins and siblings around to get excited too...

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    I've got a pretty large extended family and there was just as much excitement for the older grand kids as the younger ones. DS was the 4th grandchild on DF's side if the family and there was some difference in fuss made, but that had nothing to do with DS himself iykwim.

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    Thanks for all your replies! The reason I ask is my girlfriend & I were chatting about this not too long ago - she has just had her first baby, she was due at the same time as her two SIL's, they were all the first grandchildren and first babies in a long time on her husband's side of the family. Her baby was born 2nd (they were all born within two months of each other.) She said she may have been being unreasonable and over-emotional but she felt as though it was quite clear that her husband's parent's made more fuss over her SIL's babies than hers - she said her husband had made a comment about it too. I could tell it really upset her, her family was absolutely over the moon (and this baby was the 3rd on her side of the family). My friend & I have very similiar situations - we both LOVE our partner's families to death, but they are both FIRST'S families - first one to get married, first one to buy a house has more excitement. My family has a few little one's running around including my beautiful nephew who my parents absolutely adore, he belongs to my brother & his wife and the have made it clear that he will be their only child. I have no doubt that all children on both sides will be loved and adored equally but have a feeling that my mum will be slightly more excited about my pregnancy (assuming we can get pregnant) as she will be more involved than she was with my SIL's. I have a feeling that with my partner's family it will be a very similiar situation to my friend's - me & my SIL's getting pregnant at the same time. Thank you again for all your replies. Much appreciated. I know at the end of the day regardless of how either of our families react and treat the pregnancies, they children themselves will be doted on all in the same way. There's actually an article I have read, written by a grandmother stated she has a stronger bond with her first grandchild which also sparked my interest. I know that despite how our families feel my soon to be husband & I will be incredibly excited and thrilled. Great to get lots of feedback and personal experiences on this!

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    7th g'child on DH side, 3rd granddaughter on my side and all were over the moon, rushed to hospital and met her an hour after birth. I didn't feel any "oh just another baby" vibe at all. Who couldn't love a newborn.

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    Quote Originally Posted by rsj View Post
    She said she may have been being unreasonable and over-emotional but she felt as though it was quite clear that her husband's parent's made more fuss over her SIL's babies than hers - she said her husband had made a comment about it too. I could tell it really upset her, her family was absolutely over the moon (and this baby was the 3rd on her side of the family).
    Just a though... could it be because she is a Daughter in law & not a Daughter?

    I know my brother's Son seems closer to his Maternal grandmother then my mother as my SIL goes t her mums more often there mine. My SIL's Daughter (not my brother's) Also is closer to that Grandmother & Grandfather then any of her other 10 grand Parents (including my mother) I do feel that Child is overwhelmed by Grandparents though.

    My mother was More excited when My sister got pregnant hoping so see those kids more, but we live in Sydney, my sister in FNQ & I won't visit sister & Mum can't travel without me (as he carer).

    However mum is So Stoked that I am UTD she has started planning blankets & clothing and bedding and almost anything else she can make or embroider.

    I know my mother commented that the only reason I was closer to my paternal Grandparents in younger childhood was they lived 20 mins away as opposed to 4 hours. But once I was deemed trustworthy enough to catch a bus/train for 4/5 hours I spent my summers with her parents. This also coincided with my other grandfather going into a home though.

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    Barefooted&pregnant - we figured that too, but she was upset because it was apparently fairly obvious they were favouring the other two whilst her child was around and thought that as they grow her child may start wondering why her cousins get more attention - she was also upset because her husband was fairly upset with his parents too, I really feel for them all


 

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