When a lone female is snatched in a random attack and brutalised by a sick and twisted human being, her life taken from her, we are shaken to the core and ask 'why' and 'how can this happen?'. And rightly so.
Unfortunately, violence against women is not uncommon, and I'd hazard a guess that there are several women on this forum who have been in situations that could potentially have had devastating consequences, and I want to open a dialogue about this, as I think it's very important to discuss. Incidences get reported to the police but don't necessarily make it to the news.
Myself, I was attacked by a male, in my early 20's, while walking home drunk from a night out - I was not 25m from home. I was lucky an somehow slipped out of his grip, got to my feet and ran for my building and he ran off in the opposite direction, thank god. Later, the police told me a similar attack had occured earlier in the evening on the same street.
I also had my drink spiked in a busy club, but thankfully two of my male friends got my legless self home safely and deposited me safely insidie my front door into the safe hands of my flatmate. In the above instance I had also been with two of my guy friends but we had stopped for kebabs and I decided to keep walking as my unit block was only two short blocks from the kebab stand - they told me to wait but I didn't. I felt safe being so close to home.
This is exactly how these dangerous men start out - they start by approaching women, and build up to physical contact/ trying to knock them over/ grabbing them then running off..... gradually gaining confidence. This is why I believe this other woman who claimed this same man tried to grab her off her bike months back. This is a very serious incident and I wonder what the police did after this (should they have put more cameras up in the area? Made the incident public so other women might come forward with similar incidences? Or did they simply file a report, with no further attempt to find this guy?). Does anyone know what the police do in situations like this? I never followed up after my incident, and have no idea if the offender re-offended. The police spent the night outside my unit on the street but as far as I know that was it.
I'm sure this type of thing happens all too often. We know drink spiking is quite common.
Should we make these types of incidences more public so more people who may not have come forward with similar dodgy experiences might then come forward? Should police keep it quiet but install more surveilance cameras in the general area?
We always hear about advice for women - 'don't walk alone'... 'don't do this or that'. But seriously, oportunistic attacks can occur anywhere. A woman might just as easily be walking 20m from a doorway of a restaurant/club to her car and be grabbed. Another woman was riding her bike (during the day on a main road??). My situation was entirely preventable, but it's not always so preventable. If a sick bas*ard is intent on grabbing a woman he will do so, somehow.
Thoughts? Stories? Do you think it's important to open a dialogue and encourage women to make bigger voices when they have been in a dodgy situation no matter whether nothing eventuated from the experience and take these things more seriously?