So a recent experience got me thinking. Why is it expected that we'll be nice, and consider other people over ourselves? Not so much in a general getting along way, but in that there is pressure to look after other people at our own expense. I fully believe that we need to care about those around us, society just won't work if everyone only thinks of themselves. I'm talking about feeling horrible in a situation, but hesitating to be assertive and stand up for yourself and your rights, because it might make someone else feel bad or get them in trouble.
In my situation I said I was being a b!tch when I stood up for myself. But that's not true, it's a label I gave to myself because I was bucking the way I've been "trained" to behave.
How do you teach a kid to be caring and empathic, without letting them get caught up in outdated society expectations?