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    My mum does occasionally despite more than once knocking and I yell "just a minute!" And peer through through the cracked door. Then say "okay count to 10 then open the door because I'm in my undies" and then I run upstairs.Seriously!!???!!! She KNOWS we are pantless people. She's also dropped in a few times then called to ask where we are. Lol. Sorry WELL we would have been home had you called ahead.

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    My MIL was doing this. I nipped it in the bud by telling her 'oh, you should have called, we are literally running out the door right now' then picking up my baby and handbag and going outside. Then hiding around the corner till she drove off and going back inside

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    I know how frustrating it is when people don't let you know they are going to drop in, but he is your Dad and you don't want it to become a *thing* between you. Let it rest for a while and see if he keeps it up and if necessary sit him down and say 'I love having you here, but I also love feeling on top of things before I open the door to anyone, even my dad'. Good luck

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    Oh I forgot to add, once MIL popped in unannounced, I was out and she was right behind me, so when I walked in the door she arrived... DH (her son) didn't know she was there and opened the door in his undies... and nothing else😝 needless to say she now calls before popping in!!!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Happy2be3 View Post
    I dunno... I see where you're coming from, but he's your Dad. Sometimes you just gotta put up with annoying family members habits. I'm at the age now where I'm really aware of the fact my parents won't be around forever, so I cherish any moment I get to see them.
    This is a good point and something that has been going through my head - at the end of the day why would I begrudge my dad this. Thanks! I feel like I can let it go a bit now

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    Quote Originally Posted by River Song View Post
    We went through this with MIL...she got really shirty and used to make catty comments about "having to make an appointment to see her son"....i simply explained it was a matter of respecting the fact that our time was equally valuable as hers and that there were times that we would not accept visitors and she could either be in our lives or not but that was how we felt.

    It took her a few months of *****ing about it...but she got over herself

    I think dropping in is rude...people could be sleeping/busy/sick/upset/taking 5 minutes to themselves (gasp) and to impose yourself on them...is just rude!
    The 'having to make appointments to see his grandson' is exactly what I've been getting.

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    Quote Originally Posted by SpecialPatrolGroup View Post
    I know how frustrating it is when people don't let you know they are going to drop in, but he is your Dad and you don't want it to become a *thing* between you. Let it rest for a while and see if he keeps it up and if necessary sit him down and say 'I love having you here, but I also love feeling on top of things before I open the door to anyone, even my dad'. Good luck
    SPG you are so right! I definitely don't want it to become a thing, we have spoken and agreed to leave it for a while - his way of saying 'look lets compromise and do it my way'
    We're both the same that's the problem but he's my dad so it's just not worth it.

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    Quote Originally Posted by FearlessLeader View Post
    My MIL was doing this. I nipped it in the bud by telling her 'oh, you should have called, we are literally running out the door right now' then picking up my baby and handbag and going outside. Then hiding around the corner till she drove off and going back inside
    Gold!

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    The only person I have a call before you come rule for is My Single Sister. She doesn't get family life. She doesn't get that not everyone is perfect.

    Other then that.. If you drop by and my house is a Mess & I am in my PJ's.. Then you have to put up with it.. you dropped in unannounced. The only requirement I have among everyone except my sister is Let me know by 4pm if you want dinner. Then I have time to go buy more meat if need be.

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    Quote Originally Posted by babyla View Post
    The 'having to make appointments to see his grandson' is exactly what I've been getting.
    i came back with "no, you are making plans with my family". We are a busy household...I am at uni, my son is homeschooled, my DH works full time, DD is little and has daytime sleeps and also her own activities...also, she rarely sleeps through.

    We have a right to privacy and our own life and you should not expect us to drop everything and cater to you as you are not more important than the rest of us.

    We invite you over regularly...and you are welcome to call to invite yourself but please understand that we will not always say yes.

    She tried again to come over unannounced after that, and I wouldn't let her in (answered the door and politely explained we were busy , then closed the door and walked away).

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