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    Quote Originally Posted by VicPark View Post
    There are enough daycare centers to go around? Where do you live? Where I live you're looking at wait lists of 18 months to get a spot. Sure there are good reasons for non working parents to use daycare... But I'd be darned frustrated if as a working mum I couldn't get a spot while a SAHM had 2+ days per weeks purely to 'get things done.'
    Their money is as good as anyones. And as has been said, working parents take priority on the eaitlist. But if a stay at home parent has waited fairly and been offered a place its a little unfair on the child to be constantly shuffled around to accommodate a working parent. It is what it is. As has been said, best to be frustrated at the lack of places than the parents using them.

    Off topic now, but I find it interesting. In my perusal of working mum threads the most common go-to in the vents seems to be how great daycare is for socialising their children. Why should stay at home parents miss out on this opportunity for their children if its so great and beneficial?

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    I used daycare on day a week for DD1 and have just booked DD2 in on the same day as her sister as I am on the hunt for a new job so now I can schedule my apts on the one day where possible. My oldest loves going to 'school' as she calls it and it has been very beneficial to her so I'm hoping itsthe same for my youngest.

    All centers must use the priority system doesn't matter if sahm's child has permanent booking they can be asked to change or have their care cancelled in favor of working families. This was explained to me when I went back to work when DD1 was a baby and the director of my centre had to shuffle some kids around.

    On our enrollment form it asks why you need care and outlines the priority system. Luckily our daycare centre is only full about half the time so I've never been asked to change or surrender my spot for a working family which I would happily do. If I need extra days then they are easily requested. I feel for families in areas where there are severe shortages or no centers atall within traveling distance.

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    Quote Originally Posted by WineTime View Post
    Off topic now, but I find it interesting. In my perusal of working mum threads the most common go-to in the vents seems to be how great daycare is for socialising their children. Why should stay at home parents miss out on this opportunity for their children if its so great and beneficial?
    Responding to the socialization point only, it's easier for an at home parent to attend play groups or other environments that allow their children socialization during the day. (There's many reasons why they wouldn't & I understand that too.) I can't imagine any workplace that would agree to let a parent have time off work to do that.

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    Quote Originally Posted by ChickyBee View Post
    Responding to the socialization point only, it's easier for an at home parent to attend play groups or other environments that allow their children socialization during the day. (There's many reasons why they wouldn't & I understand that too.) I can't imagine any workplace that would agree to let a parent have time off work to do that.
    That is a fair point. But as you say there are many that wouldn't, or simply can not access a playgroup. And anyone with experience using playgroups and daycare can probably agree that socialising at playgroup is not really in the same league as socialising at at a committed, structured daycare where parents are not running the show. Surely the children of stay at home parents have just as much right to access that learning as the child of a working parent? And the parents using it could probably do without the critical eye, which only serves to widen the divide between working at stay at home parents.

    Ive been both at one time or another so I have great respect and sympathy for both.

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    Also using playgroup defeats the 'getting things done' side of it as the parent will obviously have to be at playgroup with the child. Using daycare kills two birds with one stone.

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    Child care is the village/extended family that many people don't have. Gone are the days where Grandmothers, Aunties etc...would have the children for a few hours so you could get things done!
    Everyone has the right to access children's services - I think it's a bit righteous saying that non-working parents should give up their place for working parents. it's not my business as to why someone uses child care - and my needs (as a working parent) are no greater than anyone else's

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    I don't know why everyone is saying working mums etc get priority. On the 8+ centers I put my name down at I can't recall any forms asking for working/child at risk status etc.

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    Quote Originally Posted by sweetsugardumplin' View Post
    my needs (as a working parent) are no greater than anyone else's
    I'm not saying SAHM's shouldn't have access to a *little bit* of daycare. And I'm not necessarily saying they should give up their spot to working parents. But I'll flat out say that except in cases of medical issues the need of someone to have care so they can earn$$ to pay the bills is greater than the need of someone to have care so they can do the grocery shopping or have a nap.

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    For me, my son is in 2 days a week. I'm a sole parent to him and he has recently been diagnosed with autistic disorder.
    When you can often have 7 meltdowns (I mean screaming, kicking, rolling in fetal position, self harm, etc just because of a sensory overload) before 10am, I damn well am keeping calm by looking forward to my day off. My DS doesn't cope well with change and so I am unable to even move furniture to clean because it causes a freak out. It was strongly suggested to me not to bring my child into centrelink again as last time he started tipping over chairs so he could hide under them. Currently I have one day to do full clean of the house, often including cleaning carpets. The other day is for my appointments, grocery shopping, if I want to go to the movies, I also often do case meetings with child's specialists to work out next steps.
    My child has a full time aide at childcare who does therapy with him, so two days of someone else reinforcing what I do for $50 a week is awesome.

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    Yes I use it to get things done. I'm a busy single mum. I've never been questioned on exactly what it is I do on the days DS is in care and why should I be? I work and do all sorts if things. Last week I had a whole week off and did a lot of relaxing It's none of anyone else's business quite frankly!

    Childcare should be available to anyone who needs it for whatever reason. Workplaces should more often provide on site childcare too, so kids can go into work with dad or mum.


 

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