I have a huge decision to make and I wondered if anyone can offer advice or other perspectives. I am a 39 yr old single female who would love to try to have a child. I have two options - enter into a coparent relationship with my gay best friend or use a sperm donor.
1) Coparenting - my friend and I have been friends for 25 years and have talked about having a baby extensively. He is keen to have a child and is in a very stable, long term relationship and owns his own company so is the 'perfect' coparent. If I agreed to this I would have to move from Sydney back to the UK (I moved to Australia 2 years ago). Although I think this would be a good option for the child (knowing who their father is and having 2 loving parents, even though we don't live together). My concern is whether I would be restricting myself in the medium/long term as I would be 'tied' to Cardiff, Wales. I am quite an independant person and might find this a challenge (especially if I meet a partner in the future). On a positive note I have some very close friends who live in Cardiff and my parents/brother live a few hours away.
2) Sperm donation - I can use a sperm donor and raise the child on my own. I am financially secure and my sister who is having a baby lives in Sydney and has offered to be a big support. I realise that raising a child on my own is a huge undertaking and I worry about the child not knowing who the father is. I will know the donor (so the child can find out more information when they turn 18) but I am not sure if this is enough.
I am interested in hearing other peoples advice/thoughts as I want to make sure that I consider everything very carefully. Many thanks....