I'm so frustrated at the moment and just wanted other perspectives. I'm due with my first baby mid January, this will be my parents second grandchild, my brother had a baby last year.
I'm currently mid way through and getting more uncomfortable by the day, I don't know how I'll feel by 8 months but I'm guessing pretty uncomfy and could probably use some help/ support from my mum as my husband will have to work right up to the day of birth in order to take time off after.
My mums family lives overseas, the other day she tells me one of our distant relatives is getting married in December and she's going for the wedding, I didn't know what to say, just mumbled something about being due in January, her response was I'll be back before your due and anyway I have a family that I want to see too.
This is just a sore spot for me because I've always felt she favours my brother. Even though it was his wife and not him that had to go though labour, she never would've left right before they were due, it's just a slap in the face after I do so much for them and he's hardly ever around.
Do I sound ridiculous and should i just get over it and grow up, it's not like I wanted her in the delivery room or anything anyway, i guess it would be nice if she could just see it from my point of view that I could actually give birth early, in which case I'd have my first child without my mum around, which she thinks I should get over because her family were all overseas when she had us and she managed fine so why do I have to be so needy.
Anyway I'm sorry for the long post, I guess I'm just hormonal, dealing with other family problems and I just never thought she'd be so disinterested in being around for the birth of her grandchild, especially since she keeps going on about how she never got to do anything with her first grandchild because my sister in law wouldnt let her bath, change, hold her baby so she intends to do all those things with mine whether I like it or not.