I'm a stay at home mum by choice... and I don't use daycare by choice as well.
I have a 3.5 year old and a 9 month baby and I'm beside myself lately because I can't meet the play needs of my 3 year old.
I could before, when bub was younger as she'd feed anywhere, sleep anywhere and so forth...
but now she won't b/feed unless in dark quiet room and won't sleep unless she has the same and she's now on solids having meal 3 times a day...
Her routine is full which means I have very little time in between to spend time with miss 3.
I have a very small house and even smaller kitchen which means I must do gradual tidy up and clean up throughout the course of the day otherwise I have no bench space to do the next meal.
So that takes up play time too.
It's mainly gotten this tricky in the last month or so.
DD3 is going to a kindergarten next year which I am very relieved about... but in the meantime I really want to do activities with her and take her places like I used to but it's soooo hard lately..
If I do take her somewhere I end up payig for it heavily in other ways... cranky tired and hungry baby and basic jobs at home left undone..
So I end up staying up very late trying to do them after the kids go to sleep...
and don't ask about sleep with bub because she wakes frequently and thus so do I and my husband. Neither of my kids falls asleep easily or early.
Also we have no relatives to use as hellp or babysitters I feel very isolated at times.
My friends live far across town and are caught up with their own busy family lives as well...
Just having a whinge and a whine I suppose.
I feel very sad about how things are for my 3 year old... I have considered and reconsidered childcare often in the last few weeks but I keep concluding I'm not okay with it. (I worked in quite a few centres over the course of many years and I have my own reasons).
It's not long to go before things take a turn for the better but right now in these next few months I am just really really struggling to feel like I'm doing okay and meeting the needs of everyone adequately. Especially my 3 year old. I feel so sorry for her right now and it's an awful feeling. I love her so much.
What do other Mum's do? All our circumstances are different... I guess we all have challenges unique to our own situation.