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    Default IVF Emotional Support

    I am totally new here, and wondering if anyone can point me in the right direction for emotional support. A quick backstory. Was TTC with Ex-hub for 3 years, marriage ended due to infertility stresses on an already fragile relationship. Remarried and TTC for 1 & 1/2yrs 4 failed IUI just about to start IVF. Just found out ex hub is having a baby ( reconfirms that the issue was me) my Brother and wife are 4 mo PG ( of course they were not tying and it was an accident) and my brother in law and wife are having their second. I just feel like I'm drowning. Any advice???

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    Lumegirl... It's not an easy journey this but the girls on bubhub are incredibly brave and generous with their support and knowledge. I think it's important to support and communicate with each other during the process. I think the men can feel powerless and left out at times during this. The hormones and drugs can make you a bit loopy at times but I haven't noticed it affecting me too badly. The constant anticipation and waiting can be diffficult, waiting for things to happen. Some girls are lucky and it works first go, others like myself are still wondering what is wrong or what can I do differently to make it work. Lots of my friends, colleagues and family will have or had 1 or 2 children already while we've been trying to have one. I think it's important to confide in a close girlfriend and see them often as they have been great support and distraction for me. On bubhub I've also learnt so much and experienced so read so many journeys that I don't feel alone. Best of luck and I hope its short and sweet for you. Look after yourself through it.

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    Lumegirl, so sorry to hear about your struggles. I think Kenta has given you some fantastic advice. The only thing I would add would be to check with your clinic if they offer counselling as most do with people specialised in this area. Vent away on this site, the ladies here have been through so much but are always on hand to offer support and listen. Big hugs to you, I also hope your jounrey is a short one, good luck x

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    Lumegirl - my story is much like yours Ttc for 2 years with my now ex hubby. We were both told nothing wrong with either of us. Our marriage also broke down due to stressors.

    Ive been with my current partner for 3 years now (getting married next month ) and Ttc for 12 months before starting fertility treatment. He has kids already so I feel like the common denominator.

    We did iui and it was a waste if u ask me. Should have gone straight to icsi. Worked first go for us and one blasty on ice I think in my case we just needed that little push of medical intervention. I'm 24 weeks now.

    Good luck.

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    Oh and one more thing. It's hard not to let other pregnancies make u feel down. I cried each time I found out yet another person I knew was pregnant. Its totally normal to feel that way. Your time will come and U will forget that feeling of distress. It's nothing short of a miracle anyone gets pregnant and those ivf drs are miracle workers.


 

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