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    Default Facebook thread about child leashes.... Judgmental or what ?

    I'm not good a posting threads from other sites but on Facebook I commented on the backpack / leash things for kids. Mums are calling other mums lazy! I had to use one for my autistic huge heavy 2 year old as holding hands for him and strollers were too restrictive for him. I remember the looks I got. This was pre diagnosis, but even for kids with no extra needs I think they can be a good thing especially in the city.

    Whats your opinion?

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    Pre-kids I thought they were awful...for lazy parents etc.
    I have three kids and never used one because I simply haven't needed one (I've never really had a runner, and for the brief amount of time my DD2 was a runner I put her in the pram unless someone else was with me. It was a very short lived stage that only lasted a couple of weeks)....however if I had a runner I wouldn't have hesitated in using one. I'd rather my child be attached to a leash and happily walking beside me instead of lying on the road underneath a car.

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    I can't see the problem... You have a safety cord on the pram... Why not on your child?

    And they just look so darn cute!

    LOL at the Modern Family episode about leashes...

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    I never saw any issue with them even when I was childless and clueless, lol. And I have one for my DD. She only recently started to walk but I knew she'd be a runner because she always used to crawl away from me as fast as she could go the second she smelled freedom. And I was right - she IS a runner

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    My opinion is that in some kids it is literally a life saver. I don't have to use them for 3 of my kids, but my one who is on the spectrum tries to get away all the time, he runs on to roads if he has half a chance, wiggles out of vice like grips, is double jointed so can manipulate is body out of prams and car seats. So yeah, I use one on him, I don't like using it. And I hate the looks I get. But at the end of a day, a teddy leash thing on a child is better than a squashed child on the road.

    To those mothers out there who say those mothers are lazy, grow up and stop acting like children. Seriously- why don't you worry about your own kids than being so concerned with people you see on the street. They are used as a safety device, as in, people are doing it because they are concerned with their kids safety.

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    People who don’t use them or call parents who do lazy, have probably never had a kid who’s a “runner” or a “wanderer”.

    Back in the 80’s they were still in vogue (those white leather reins) and if my mum had not had them for my little brother, we certainly would have lost him. Even as a 2 year old, it was so hard to keep hold of him, he was just a very energetic kid. We almost lost him SO many times because in a split second, he’d be gone. And if the mother has 1 or 2 other kids, or a baby in a pram then i think Its fine to lose them. We tried for years to teach him not to run on the road, but it was so hard, he just couldn’t stay still.

    If you have a nice quiet kid who will stay by the pram and wont continually run off, then there no need. If you have a kid who cannot sit still, will not hold your hand and run’s off then i think they are fine for your own peace of mind.

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    I used one with my DS, he was a runner. He had a speech delay which affected his comprehension of the world so no amount of "hold Mummy's hand" would have worked. Besides, I defy anyone to reach into their handbag and retrieve their purse, pull out money or cards and pay for goods whilst still holding onto their toddlers hand. My DS was also extremely heavy and would often do the 'stop and drop' in doorways. On the leash he was much better behaved.

    Why is it ok to strap a toddler in a pram (in fact it's usually not acceptable NOT to strap a toddler in) but not ok to strap a toddler to yourself using a device made for that purpose? It also means they get exercise and a little more independence.

    I had it on him one day and a lady in the shopping centre came over to me and said "you must love him very much, that's lovely you using one of those"

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    Quote Originally Posted by ~Bec~ View Post
    I used one with my DS, he was a runner. He had a speech delay which affected his comprehension of the world so no amount of "hold Mummy's hand" would have worked. Besides, I defy anyone to reach into their handbag and retrieve their purse, pull out money or cards and pay for goods whilst still holding onto their toddlers hand. My DS was also extremely heavy and would often do the 'stop and drop' in doorways. On the leash he was much better behaved.

    Why is it ok to strap a toddler in a pram (in fact it's usually not acceptable NOT to strap a toddler in) but not ok to strap a toddler to yourself using a device made for that purpose? It also means they get exercise and a little more independence.

    I had it on him one day and a lady in the shopping centre came over to me and said "you must love him very much, that's lovely you using one of those"
    This.I've only ever had compliments about ours, such as "how cute" and "ooh, that's a good idea" mind you the Judgy people probably wait until I'm out of earshot before bishing about it! I think they got a bad rap after that woman in the USA was filmed dragging her toddler lying on the floor round the corner of a shopping unit.

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    Quote Originally Posted by ~Bec~ View Post

    Why is it ok to strap a toddler in a pram (in fact it's usually not acceptable NOT to strap a toddler in) but not ok to strap a toddler to yourself using a device made for that purpose? .
    I never thought of it that way but it makes a lot of sense!!!

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    I don't see a problem with them. I haven't used one as I use the pram (just easier for me) but if I didn't use the pram I'd have to use one as my daughter runs off all the time. It's not hurting them.


 

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