hi musicalmummy, Im sure you have looked for help in all the different directons that you can. Is there any youth club, p.c.y.c. type of thing near you.? It seems that your sd is thinking she is older and wiser than she really is, and that she has all the answers. She might benefit from spending some time with youth workers, and seeing where some homeless kids do end up. There is such a need for more support for families and young people. I wish you all the best. Marie.