So I am 28 weeks with my second and it's a boy. So my mind was open to or rather should I say oblivious tothe issue of circumcision. At first I didn't really know what we would do in that regard, but my husband is totally adamant that he will be/should be circumcised (needless to say my husband is himself).
Initially my thoughts were, no, I'd prefer we didn't get him done as I honestly can't stand the thought of putting our new born baby boy through it!! But thought maybe my husband had more of a say given he has a penis and i don't.
I have asked my midwife about it and she, and another midwife in the room at the time, where baffled as to why my husband would want it done to our little man. They explained it's pretty much not done these days, only for maybe cultural or religious reasons and only done through private surgeries or hospitals.
So I have done a bit of my own research and looked into why people would get their boys circumcised post birth, cleanliness seems to been the main issue which seems totally irrelevant. My research uncovered (as the midwives had also informed me) that the foreskin is still attached to the head of penis until age 3 or 4 anyway! I attempted to watch a video of the procedure being done on a 6 week old but had turn it off! And at the result of all my research I have decided there is NO WAY I am having it done my precious baby boy!
So now I need to convince my husband! I am so anxious about talking to him about it as I feel he won't listen and will just remain head strong about it. His main reason for it to be done is the cleanliness aspect. But so what, at 3 or 4 we have to teach him he needs to clean it a certain way!? If he wants to get his foreskin removed later on in life as an adult, that will be his choice. Also, the 'son to look like dad' aspect doesn't fly with me either considering most boys are not circumcised these days. I'd rather he look the same physically to his peers than his dad.
Anyway, need advice on how to broach the issue with hubby. It's totally stressing me out and making me feel very upset to tears whenever i think about it, which is a lot at the moment.