Hey ladies, I'm really freaking out a little and would appreciate your help or advice. (Some are glowing preggos, some are proud preggos, I'm ANXIOUS preggo)
I was induced with DS for being overdue (41 weeks, OB gave me some guff about the "quality of the placenta" which I never quite bought) and it lead to a birth very different to the one I'd hoped for. Don't get me wrong, I don't feel like it was hideous. I don't feel like it was "birth rape" or have any trauma associated with it, I don't get nervous recalling the birth or upset about it, I just take it for what it was.
I was a passenger.
I had an epi and forceps and the fluids pumped into me to counter the low blood pressure effects of the epi (all 3 litres of it) meant I spent the days after the birth extremely puffed up (could put dents in my ankles with your thumb) and very very uncomfortable. Thought my skin was going to split. The 3rd degree tear wasn't as annoying as the puffiness!
So with this hopefully being our last baby, I want to try and do things differently this time. I changed OBs, and this one is female and I feel a lot more comfortable that she has my back. She knows I want to have a natural spontaneous labour, and is making me walk the walk in terms of expectations of weight gain and keeping fit. I put on 26kgs with my first pregnancy and she said "Yeah that absolutely won't be happening again, blobs don't get natural births" lol. So I think I love her. :P
She gave me a gold star for not putting on any weight in the first trimester and at my 17 week appointment she'd like to see my workout regimes written down. "Gotta get in shape for that marathon if that's what you want to run!". So she's totally on board and in my best interests for what I want to achieve, I think. I feel like she listens, takes me seriously, and makes me walk the walk. I like that. (In fact I think need that, firm but fair)
But I keep worrying about what if this baby goes overdue too? What if I do everything right and still find myself staring induction right in the face? What if I "don't do spontaneous labour"?
Were you induced with your first and went on to have a spontaneous labour with your second? Did you have to be induced again? Did you have any say in HOW you were induced? Did you do anything differently?
If you went overdue with your first, did you go overdue with your second, too? Were your dates always a bit squiffy? With DS my dates constantly changed and I feel as though he probably wasn't "really" overdue at all. But with this baby we had sex once that month and the baby has always been spot on for dates, due date has never changed. Would that have any sway?
Sorry for the wall of text, I'm just really nervous and was hoping some ladies could help. xox Thanks for getting through it all!