Taken my DD to lots of parties, informal backyard BBQs to formal engagements and weddings. Have done so since she was a wee little thing and she's almost 2 now - we had a wedding 2 weeks ago and she enjoyed the late nite
I have to say tho, the difference might be that my group of friends tend to always include children at parties, so there are always other babies/toddlers/kids there. For DD it's like a playdate - kids to run around with (we're still mindful where they play), great food, good music
If you're the only littlie there it might get boring and intimidating.. So I can't blame ur little one for acting out.
Tho, smoke and broken glass? How many venues nowadays allow that sort of thing?