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    I totally agree with WastingTime & everyone else who has made the point that having a passcode on your phone doesn't mean you have something to hide. My DH and I both already had email accounts before we met, FB accounts before we moved in together. Why on earth would we know each other's passwords? I can't even imagine any reasonable conversation in which either of us would ask to know the other's passwords or phone passcode. My work requires a passcode on the phone - it's an inherent part of the software which allows us to access work email on the phone. However, I already had a passcode on it - for security reasons, not to hide anything from my DH. It's my birthday so he wouldn't have to think too hard if he wanted to crack it. or he could just ask me & I'd tell him. But as I said, I cannot imagine asking another person for their password to something. I think the attitude that anyone who doesn't share phones, emails etc is not trustworthy or committed to their relationship, is the biggest load of bollocks I've ever heard. It's just that we are grown ups and trust each other without needing to see everything they do or say.

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    Oh god he sounds like he's already up to no good but she obviously has no idea what he is up too. He is very sly obviously!

    Dh and I don't go through each others phones but we don't lock them either. We have no issue with answering each others phones when they ring and often call out to the other to view a text or answer each others phones when it goes off.

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    No I wouldn't marry a man like that, if I knew he was like that, but his fiancé obviously doesn't know poor thing.

    As for passwords etc, we have separate everything, with passwords. I know my husband's, but never go through his phone/email/fb as I believe it's disrespectful. He doesn't know all my passwords and I like it that way, I don't want him reading my emails or anything, I gave nothing to hide but I value my privacy and my friends have a right to their privacy when they send me messages or emails. Is hate to think my fruends' husband's read everything I sent them! If he asked to use my phone I wouldn't have an issue with it, but would expect him to respect my privacy.

    If he actively hid his passwords from me though, I would be suspicious.

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    DH's phone is basically a business phone. He has people calling him from interstate and internationally. If his phone rings and he can't get to it I ignore it and then tell him his phone rang. It would be so unprofessional if I answered his phone and it was an interstate or international work call and his wife answered the phone with noisy kids in the background. He uses his fb account for business so no need for me to be accessing it...his personal account he doesn't use...I am not friends with his business page even though family members and friends are. I don't care.He has no reason that he would need to access my email, facebook or need at log in to my uni stuff so he doesn't need the passwords. If he asked me for them I would be asking him why he wanted them for and unless he had a really good reason I'd be annoyed that he needed access to all my stuff and din't just trust me to do the right thing. 15 years together almost, nearly 6 years of marriage and three kids we have always been open and honest with each other...why we need access to all my stuff to be able to keep that trust? I'd be heartbroken if he doubted me in anyway.

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    If I knew about it, then no. I wouldn't even consider marrying someone like that.

    I think a lot of people who say that those that feel the need to share that info are just trying to pry into their partner's affairs. I guess some do. But for people like me it's enough to know that your partner has given you access to anything should you want it.
    I don't ever use that access. Just as I know he never uses the access he has given me. I don't need to know every single detail of his life which is why I don't pry into it lol.

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    No Eko (sorry can't quote, on phone) my issue is with tje assumption that if you don't share passwords you're up to no good. It's an extremely judgemental, false blanket statement.The man in the OP does sound like he is up to no good with the app on his phone, but then who knows, maybe it was put on by a mate as a joke and he just didn't bother to take it off...or maybe he os scum but he is one person who has his passwords secret who may or may not be up to any good....doesn't mean the rest of tje population who don't share passwords with their partners are.

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