Now I am not trying to be emotive at all...but genuinely need some advise.
If my child does something to hurt another child whether accidentally or deliberately I am quick to find out what happened (if I didn't see it) and I will discipline my child as necessary.
Now what do you do when other kids hurt your kids? I always look to the parent to discipline the child as I would do my own and more often then not they seem to brush it off or just ignore it.
There have been couple of incidences where kids have hurt my kids and they come to me for comfort as I always tell them to come to me if they get hurt and then I look expectantly at the parent but they usually make a joke out of it...and well frankly it saddens me as I feel like I protect my kids when they come to me for help.
Another instance just recently, little girl (3.5yo) bit ds1 on the arm...gave him a massive bruise. Parent said 'oh she is being a bit rough isn't she' and ds1 was quite upset. I bent down to the girl and said 'now we shouldn't bite' and the girl slaps me across the face! I look to the parent and she is like 'oh she is really being difficult isn't she?'
It's surprised me that nothing was done but I feel so ineffectual as a parent as I cant seem to help my kids. Does that make sense?
So can your discipline someone's else's kid? Can you pull them up and say 'hey you hurt ds2'. What do you do in those situations?