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    Default Re: Did finding out the sex help you bond?

    Rayroo, I feel the same..I am 18w today and yet to feel movement..Know it can happen later in first pregnancies but I am wondering if anything is even in there! for this reason.I would like to find out at my scan in 2 weeks if a boy or girl.as think it will help me bond with bub and make it more real.
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    I think it has helped me immensely! We found out the sex 6 days ago, and prior to that, I kept wondering if it was weird that I don't feel like I love this baby.However in the last three days, whenever I think about loving our baby, I get overwhelmed by emotion and it brings me to tears because I just love her so much! It feels strange to be able to love someone who is half grown that I've never met, but I feel so proud of her whenever I feel her rolling around and kicking :-)

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    We've kept the sex a surprise and although it is my first, I don't think it means I've bonded with bub any less? As soon as they are kicking and rolling around it's love

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    We found out with both pregnancies. And I felt it did. I was able to put identities to them alot easier. As before I was just really unsure.. Really I felt like I was floating. Once I found out what I was having, I felt like I could prepare, and put a name to the baby. Helped give him/them more of an identity for me.
    I did struggle with the second pregnancy, not so much physically but mentally. My family did not like the fact I was having another boy. But it made me bond a stronger bond then I did with my first. Well at least it felt that way.

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    You know what probably no although we named her and would refer to her by name. It's just DH so badly wanted a boy that I felt a little bad bonding with my little princess. NOW he hopes for a second girl lol (a pity I'm not having another any time soon)

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    No.
    I have had 2 children and found at the sex with one and not the other and didn't feel anymore bonded with the baby i knew the sex of. I loved my babies before they were born but the real bonding didn't occur until after they were born and it had nothing to do with their sex.

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    I loved finding out but I don't think it has helped me bond any better. He still seems a bit unreal to me. Even when he's kicking away I still can't imagine a baby in there!

    I think it helped my partner though. I would find out the sex again for sure.

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    I didn't find out, but once you start to feel those little kicks and they get stronger and stronger, it will all feel real.
    On a side note to the finding out the sex bit, I found when I was in deep labour just remembering that I didn't know if a boy or girl was coming gave me a huge boost to keep going.

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    I didn't find out but was bonded with my baby not long after birth.

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    Absolutely. I had already started the bonding process in pregnancy #1, but I was calling bubba my little girl ... then I had a scan saying it was a boy! Eik! So, after a few days to adjust my headspace I was back to working on bonding with my little boy. I do think it helped.

    The main bonding though for both pregnancies was from the kicking and moving and interaction throughout my pregnancy, which really became much more frequent after 20 weeks.


 

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