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    Yes. It did help me bond. It helped me reconcile that I actually had a child that might be born.

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    No. The child I bonded with instantly, the one I fell in love with on first sight, was my surprise.

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    Default Re: Did finding out the sex help you bond?

    I think so with katelyn. Being so afraid to imagine having a baby girl and be heart broken if she were a boy. Or imagine I was having a boy followed by waves of guilt because imagining I was having a boy felt like "preparing for the worst" so finding out stopped the emotional rollercoaster.

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    Default Did finding out the sex help you bond?

    Quote Originally Posted by Amiedoll View Post
    In a way it did, I enjoy thinking of my daughter and what it's going to be like having a little girl running around underfoot. My husband and I picked out our names and I brought a few pink things.
    Before that I just couldn't really imagine what our baby might be like. It gave my imagination a jumping off point
    Same. It's easier to picture a real little guy running around. It was also great for bonding between bub and DF too. Actually, i think its helped my whole extended family connect more too.

    I just like making plans and being as prepared as I can for what's coming, also, going out and buying lots of little boy stuff is fun too

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    Yes,I had to find out!!
    I REALLY wanted a girl first time round and was sad when I found out I had a boy but once I got shopping and planning got so excited!
    2nd time I knew it was a boy but wanted to confirm
    To me,I NEEDED to know,and I did find I could bond better...
    Having said that I know ppl who havent found out the sex,and still love their baby the same way at the end of the day.Its a personal choice,and no matter what you WILL love and bond with bubs xx

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    Default Re: Did finding out the sex help you bond?

    I found out to help me bond and to make it more real, but I don't think it did tbh! Not that I felt particularly disconnected or down about it, it was all so unreal.

    Depends on your personality I guess. We found out we were having a girl towards the end of my pregnancy, and had pretty much settled on a name, but I still didn't talk to my bump as a girl or use her name. Don't know why! Even after I pushed her out and laid back on the bed, I was shocked to feel this slimy thing on my chest, then I looked down and remembered 'oh yeah, that's probably my baby, that's what I just went through all that for'.

    So finding out didn't help it become more real for me, but everyone's different!

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    Default Did finding out the sex help you bond?

    Quote Originally Posted by CJWA View Post
    Definitely!! Especially as I thought he was a girl for the first 20ish weeks, it's really helped me know my little man.
    This For me it was nice and personal to call him a him, not an it or they. Has I not found out the sex, I would have had this gut feeling of a girl the whole time and perhaps felt like I didn't know him when he came out ... Does that make sense?

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    Yes I think so, also because we then could lock in the name and use it just between us to get used to it.

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    Default Did finding out the sex help you bond?

    I think it did, just gave bub a bit more identity and we picked a name and have been calling her that name since.

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    Definantly finding out for sure next time! We asked not to know the sex at the ultrasound but we very plainly saw a willy. the tech was great and didn't let on and hubby didn't say anthing but I knew he saw it too. So then because I wanted it to be a surprise and I wasn't sure I had to convince myself and DH that it could still be a girl. I was all over the place. Also when he was born calling him by his real name was werid. We had been calling him cellsie like Kas Cook, and that sudden change in idenity was very hard. It took me ages to get used to his name. So next time we are definantly finding out the sex and using their real name, even if it is just between us!


 

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