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    Default Re: Would you invite yourself to your dil's sisters wedding uninvited?

    This is the person who would not let my dd1 accept congratulations and hugs from my family on the day my dd2 was born while everyone was waiting for dd2 to be born and to make sure all was good with her being 6 weeks prem. Any of my family members that did go near dd1 were scowled at including my mum and an Aunty who took time out of her day caring for her dying adult son to come and see us.

    there are more instances such as insisting I get dd1 a passport while I was 7 months pregnant so she could take her on her first overseas holiday. Me being so pregnant meant I wouldn't have been able to go. Like hell I was getting that passport.

    If MIL were to go I can only see her trying to be possessive of dd1 and dd2. going by past experiences.

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    Default Would you invite yourself to your dil's sisters wedding uninvited?

    TBH it sounds as though you have unrelated unresolved issues with your MIL so have a biased opinion on the matter

    What she is suggesting is not unreasonable or uncommon, alot of people attend ceremony's uninvited - generally workmates of the bride or groom or relatives of people in the bridal party!

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    Default Re: Would you invite yourself to your dil's sisters wedding uninvited?

    I find it weird that so many people are saying there's nothing wrong with it. Unless the bride and groom personally invite you, you don't have a right to be there IMO.
    I certainly won't appreciate random people that I DIDN'T invite watching me marry the person I love. Where is the respect in society? You're not invited to the wedding... tough luck, wait for the photos!

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    Default Re: Would you invite yourself to your dil's sisters wedding uninvited?

    Quote Originally Posted by RmumR View Post

    Sure you and DH can discourage her but if that doesnt work you can really just hope for the best
    Will be hoping for sure.

    Quote Originally Posted by jesssalee View Post
    Sorry, but your mother in law sounds like a psycho.
    No offence taken.

    Quote Originally Posted by JaneDoe View Post
    TBH it sounds as though you have unrelated unresolved issues with your MIL so have a biased opinion on the matter

    What she is suggesting is not unreasonable or uncommon, alot of people attend ceremony's uninvited - generally workmates of the bride or groom or relatives of people in the bridal party!
    Yeah there are unresolved issues but my sister is pregnant, bi-polar, off her meds been in hospital a few times due to complications and already stressed about people going who she didn't really want to invite in the first place. In this particular case I really don't think it is appropriate for her to go and we have explained this to her.



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    Quote Originally Posted by JaneDoe View Post
    TBH it sounds as though you have unrelated unresolved issues with your MIL so have a biased opinion on the matter

    What she is suggesting is not unreasonable or uncommon, alot of people attend ceremony's uninvited - generally workmates of the bride or groom or relatives of people in the bridal party!
    This. I think your opinion of your MIL is swaying your opinion. TBH I wouldn't go to a wedding uninvited, but as others have said, lots of people watch church weddings, it is open to the public.

    Now if it's the reception, then that's a whole different ball of wax.... are you talking about the ceremony or the reception or both OP?

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    Default Would you invite yourself to your dil's sisters wedding uninvited?

    Typical BH post give copious more info after the OP :rollseyes:

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    Default Would you invite yourself to your dil's sisters wedding uninvited?

    We had something like this at our wedding. It was a family and very close friends only. (58guests) one of dh's friends bought his mum!!! We got the RSVP for him and his g/f but not his mum and then he turned up with his g/f and mum. Dh and I had only met his mother once before about 2 years prior (I couldn't even remember her name)

    To say the least we were unimpressed.

    Btw this was to our reception too. I didn't mind who came to our wedding. We would have had more close friends of we could afford it but we couldn't.
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    Default Would you invite yourself to your dil's sisters wedding uninvited?

    I would never invite myself to a wedding.

    My friend invited herself to my wedding, and let's just say that it didn't end well and we are no longer friends because she wasn't allowed to come.

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    My sister mil did it and she took off with my flower girl striped her, and took her hair out etc... There was a major panic as she just went missing, nobody knew she had taken her for around 30 mins. So i have no pics of the whole bridal party.

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    Default Re: Would you invite yourself to your dil's sisters wedding uninvited?

    There is always more to any story but the basics usually suffice for starters. The main thing is she had been asked not to and still intends on going and she knows my sisters story.

    But not arguing. It is something that does happen a lot and I am on my phone which is another reason I tried to keep it basic.



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