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    Default Would you invite yourself to your dil's sisters wedding uninvited?

    So... Would you?

    Dp's mum had decided she is gonna go to my sisters wedding ceremony uninvited. She had only ever seen my sister at dd1's birthdays etc.. Apart from that they wouldn't even know each other. Both me and dd1 are in the wedding party and she wants to see "her little flower girl". My sister had already had arguments with my mum and her dad over asking to invite family members (and they have paid the majority of the money for the wedding for them) who they don't see very often.

    Keep in mind dd1 gets to keep the entire flower girl outfit. MIL is totally not invited at all. DP had spoken to her and said it will cause an argument if she goes but she insists the bride won't even notice her there. Every one else will and they will ask why she was allowed to go but x wasn't.

    And the ceremony is about 2 hours away so not likes it's around the corner.


    What do you think is the best course of action? Tell sister, not tell her?I have hidden the invite so she see it easily but she know the rough area it is and won't be hats to work out location.

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    Default Would you invite yourself to your dil's sisters wedding uninvited?

    If its the ceremony i don't think theres much you can do as churches are open to the public whether theres a wedding in it or not.

    Sure you and DH can discourage her but if that doesnt work you can really just hope for the best

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    Default Would you invite yourself to your dil's sisters wedding uninvited?

    Sorry, but your mother in law sounds like a psycho.

    Maybe get your DP to tell her again that she can't go, no joking around. Also, I guess you could put your DD in her outfit beforehand just for mil to see. I can't believe she thinks this is normal, to be honest. This is your sister's day, and a day for her family and friends to celebrate. It has absolutely nothing to do with your mil

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    Default Would you invite yourself to your dil's sisters wedding uninvited?

    I would NEVER invite myself to somebody's wedding.
    I'd tell your sister, extremely rude.

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    She just wants to go to the ceremony?
    Not the reception?
    I can't see it's an issue is it? I went to a wedding recently and quite a few extras turned up to the ceremony (work colleagues, relatives of the bridal party etc).

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    Default Would you invite yourself to your dil's sisters wedding uninvited?

    TBH I don't see the big deal at coming just to the ceremony - its not like it costs the bride and groom anything for her to watch!!!

    My MIL came to two weddings my DSs were page boys in but she wasn't invited - no one gave a shiz!

    She is there to watch her granddaughter be a flower girl I don't think that's weird!

    If I was to be brutally honest I think it's totally bridezilla to get angry / upset at her coming - its hardly going to 'ruin' her day by her being there!

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    I don't really think it is wierd for people who have not been invited to the wedding to go to the ceremony. There is no cost, so she wouldn't be putting them out.

    Only if there was bad blood between the MIL and anyone in the wedding party or close family/friend would it potentially be an issue.

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    If she's just talking about attending the ceremony then I don't think there is much you can say that will stop her. We had people that we didn't invite but knew about the wedding come to the ceremony (some of my Mum's work colleagues) but it didn't bother me and truly I didn't notice. Would your sister be annoyed if she just went to that?

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    Default Would you invite yourself to your dil's sisters wedding uninvited?

    If she's only going to the church to watch the bride and bridal party exit/enter I don't see the big deal.

    If she's planning on actually crashing and attending the actual ceremony and reception then that's a bit weird.

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    Any random off the street is free to walk into the church (assuming it is a church wedding) to watch a marriage ceremony. I don't think it is all that strange.


 

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